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 Leia (original poster member #42510) posted at 3:08 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014

Court is at 4 this afternoon, and I'm, frankly, a basket case right now. STBXWH is downstairs cleaning. I hear him rattling things. I can't work up the nerve to care, or go down to his stupid music. Where did my life go so askew that it is now in the hands of some judge that I don't even know???

Argh. I don't know how I'm going to make it through the day. I know by the time court rolls around, I'm going to have my bitch boots on, and I've promised myself to not get rattled, or drawn into conversations without my L present at the court house. I've read the other threads concerning L's, conversations in the hallways, etc. Not going there.

Thanks for listening. It does help to type this out.

"Somebody get this walking carpet out of my way." Princess Leia, Star Wars

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 Leia (original poster member #42510) posted at 3:09 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014

...and I just got another rejection letter from a job.

"Somebody get this walking carpet out of my way." Princess Leia, Star Wars

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Faithful w/Love ( member #33128) posted at 3:13 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014

You are Strong, you are a woman of strength! We will be with you there in spirit. Go look in the mirror and look at the wonderful woman looking back! You did not do this, you were everything you were suppose to be and God knows that and see that.

You will be okay, and I can understand what you may be feeling. Remember - You are strong and you are done taking shit from someone who treated you horribly.

(((((LEIA)))))

BS(ME)41 WH(HIM)38
DD 21 and DS 16
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"

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hexed ( member #19258) posted at 3:14 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014

((Leia))

Some days just suck. No matter how court goes today, it was going to be a tough day. You will come out the other side of this OK.

Just ignore STBX today. Focus on you and getting what you need.

But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler

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norabird ( member #42092) posted at 4:15 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014

(((((Leia))))

Good luck in court today and don't be too discouraged on the job front. I can't even say how many jobs I haven't gotten after interviewing/applying...literally dozens. Something that is right for you WILL come along.

Sit. Feast on your life.

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one2ndchance ( member #14759) posted at 5:14 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014

My son in law once walked into an office and asked if he could work there for no pay. He said if they were pleased with his work at the end of two weeks, would they consider offering him a position. They said yes and 2 weeks later he was hired. Four years later he became VP of marketing.

We once had a young woman come into our office asking if she could be a volunteer intern in our office and possibly help with stocking supplies and other menial things. She only came in once a week, but within 2 months, she was offered a part time job. After a year, she was offered a management position at a satellite office.

These are desperate measures, but they can work. It shows employers you have initiative and motivation.

Good luck with court today.

Married 26 years
DDay #1 2/2002
DDay #2 6/2012
Gave him his second chance and he blew it.
Divorce final: 9/9/2014

It's hard to see the road ahead if you're always looking in the rear view mirror.

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jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 7:10 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014

(((Leia)))

Sending you strength. Remember when you walk into court, we are all there with you.

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 Leia (original poster member #42510) posted at 3:14 AM on Friday, March 28th, 2014

Thank you everyone. I get to move and take the furniture that I have inherited with me. The temporary custody went through and I can live with it.

Now, on to my moving project and then job hunting full time.

"Somebody get this walking carpet out of my way." Princess Leia, Star Wars

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norabird ( member #42092) posted at 5:05 AM on Friday, March 28th, 2014

I'm glad it's over with and that the result seems good! Sending you job and apartment search mojo....

Sit. Feast on your life.

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