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I would pour molten metal into his ears and enjoy myself in the process.

OW's business was destroyed last year in May by a tornado....she escaped. Since then she has opened a new business near the same area and I have my fingers crossed as we head into tornado season again!

The only thing I really wish? Is that they could feel the true raw emotional and physical pain like I have. To be blind sided and have your life torn from you in and instant. To feel exactly like I have when this pain was inflicted on me.

But do I wish death? Arrests? Cancer? No. I'm indifferent.

If something happened I wouldn't be sad or happy. It just is.

I made myself stop looking at her fb page...eventually it became easy to resist...now I have to make myself look if I feel suspicious about something...I can't help but hope one I will look and it will be gone.

I have said 100 times why can't she just fall off the face of the earth...my life would be so much easier. The truth of the matter is that she should be so insignificant to me that is shouldn't matter. But I wonder...what if she were gone...how would that change the way I view things...the way I think about my M...our future. To be rid of the possibility that NC could be broken....how would that feel?

I told WS's counselor I hope his EA partner dies a fiery death off a cliff, counselor laughed and hubby looked scared lol. She's pathetic.

I had a lot of those same thoughts over the last year. However, I keep coming back to the fact that my fWW is the OW to her AP's BW. I would hope she wouldn't wish harm on my fWW.

I feel a little better each day that I put just a little more distance between those thoughts and feelings. I am trying to let go of the rage. I know it doesn't do me any good to hold onto it.

I hope someday to have inner peace and not allow the thoughts of him to linger, and maybe eventually not think of him at all.

I hope you all will eventually have that peace as well!

I don't really have to wish harm on the OW, she does it to herself. Though I do admit, if she got run over by a train, car, bus, etc and died I wouldn't shed any tears.

The OW in my situation is my husband's ex and the mother of his child. They never married which still chaps her hide.

She keeps making the same stupid choices. When he and I first got together, she was living with her mom doing the "full time student" thing. They were fighting for custody and doing a two weeks with each for the time being. She and her mother got into a physical fight (not their first) and she got thrown out of the house so she became homeless.

My husband (then boyfriend) of course took his son and let her see him whenever she good while she was living in her car with her cat. She finally got an apartment (a real slum), but no job. Barely even looks for a job because she's going to use her financial aid and child support from him (which had not been decided) to pay for everything. Oops, fin aid got yanked because she was on academic probation. Starts job hunting but TURNS DOWN several because "they were part time and wouldn't cover all her bills."

Gets evicted, homeless again. Doesn't see her son for two separate spans of 6 weeks at a time. Even sets up time to see him and then doesn't show during those times.

Custody case finally gets finished and my husband wins everything, of course. She's in a homeless halfway house program that got her a job and gave her a place to stay. Gets kicked out of the program because she won't follow the rules or save money as required by the program. Lives at her office job by the good grace of her boss. Gets fired for basically going off on everyone in her office after my husband dumped her after their brief A. Blames my husband for her getting fired.

Homeless again. Still homeless. Has a better job now, at least, but chose to spend her first bonus with the new company on an iPad rather than socking it away for an apartment so she isn't FREAKING HOMELESS ANYMORE.

Her son, her sweet sweet boy who just turned 5, knows his mom is homeless but she won't talk to him about it or reassure him that she's working on herself, etc. So he talks to me about how he's worried about his mom. 5 year olds should not be thinking they need to help their parents. He wants to give her his piggy bank to help her.

She is her own bad karma. Sad thing is, she thinks the world at large is out to get her. Wonder what it is like to be so important that the world revolves around you?

I have the champagne ready for when I hear the good news----that karma has given OW what she deserves

I hope the slut dies.....a slow, drawn out painful death. I hope she knows it's going to happen and has time to think about it the damage she helped bring to my family.

I hope she looses everything! She shouldn't be allowed to live.

I use to wish many of the same things sistermilkshake did. Lately, I think just being herself and having to look at her pug face in the mirror everyday is punishment enough.

I've seen, via FB, that the whore's life has crumbled. Deaths including her mother, aunt and dog. Thrown out by LTSO (thanks to me letting him know what she is). Had to get a job in a strip mall, where before LTSO paid for it all. She's just a pig, and despite me seeing her life fall apart, I still wait for the day when there is no smile left on her face. As long as she's 'making the best of things', I wait for her to suffer.

I don't obsess like before, but I don't feel badly for wishing her pain. She wanted my life, and was doing all she could to get it. The only way to get it would be for me to suffer. Why then should I not want her suffering?

I hope she, and all unremorseful OW, suffer until their death, and I hope that their death is a long time from now, and that from now until that day there is nothing but suffering.

These are people that laughed as we were lied to, cheated, and betrayed. They were gleeful as we unknowingly suffered, and they prayed for us to be out of the picture in any means necessary. I believe they deserve the life they hoped for us, and that is not a good life.

If that upsets people, then they should look inside and ask why.

I work in the local ER. I read every patient's chart for my job, billing/coding and documentation auditing. I am waiting for the day OW comes in for vaginal and/or rectal foreign body, dislocated jaw from giving oral sex, or amoebic dysentery!!

I hope the slut dies.....a slow, drawn out painful death. I hope she knows it's going to happen and has time to think about it the damage she helped bring to my family.

I hope she looses everything! She shouldn't be allowed to live.

^^^^^^^^Ditto

I too wanted to get my hands on the OM and I'm not sure what would have happened. Fortunately for me, he lived 2500 miles away so a physical confrontation was not going to happen without an airplane ride which I wasn't willing to do. But, I was able to get my justice through a calculated exposure campaign which resulted in him calling begging me to stop and profusely apologizing. He told me that nothing he could ever do would make up for his mistake and that he was very sorry and that he deserved everything I had done. An apology was all I ever really wanted and when I got it all my rage was gone instantly. It was a huge step forward for my personal healing and I am working quickly towards indifference with the OM now.

[This message edited by BPhoenix at 5:42 PM, April 13th (Sunday)]

I just hope she's miserable, broke, lonely and suffers heartbreak worse than she helped inflict on me. I also hope her obese ass develops all the diseases that will threaten her life like diabetes, heart disease, and overall inability to move around as she's so damn huge it hurts! I hope her skank ass gets a terrible std from her whoring around with random dicks on the Internet.

I hope she somehow realizes that I'm better than her in EVERY WAY and that her brief moments with my fWH, were due to HIS brokenness and inability to handle a strong dominant personality like mine, NOT because she's in any way able to compete with me on MY level!

Gosh, I'm mean! LOL

But only when it comes to that OW (ogre woman)

Rant over.

With OW#4 (my sister), definitely yes. It does help a little that I know her life actually is miserable. Her BH can't stand her. She posts and tweets all the time about how he constantly tells her that the only reason he stays with her is because she is the mother of his kids. Instead of divorcing her, he works out of state with their grown son. When they do come in to visit, him and their son stay with his family. Her daughter can't stand her and lives several hours away. I see her kids more than she does.

My sister has been arrested for dealing drugs (Ice form of meth) out of her home. When her kids were small, the state took them away from her several times for abuse. She is a pain pill addict who routinely messes herself when she's in a stupor. She's always broke. Always begging for money. She's been in and out of more hospitals and rehabs than I can count. She use to be a regular at the free STD clinic.

When people find out for the first time that we are sisters, I always get asked how it's even possible because we are nothing alike. She's the scum of the county who doesn't even get invited to jury duty while I'm the local girl who did good for herself.

My sister is her own worst enemy. I'm just waiting for the day when I read about her in the paper again. I figure she'll either die in an overdose, a car accident while under the influence, or in a blaze of bullets when the second bank heist she tries to pull goes wrong. (She got out of the first one by turning state's evidence.)

With the other OW, I figure they are their own worst enemies too. I won't shed a tear for any of them (my sister included).

Wow, Furious1! Just. WOW.

Your sister is living the nightmare many of us wish on the OP.

That's karma!

I would wish harm to the AP if it would help me forget that my wife was the one who really fucked me over, but I haven't managed to forget that yet. There are a thousand men in this town alone who would have happily slept with her, so I won't even pretend that he's anything unique or special.

So my focus is on what she's doing to heal the damage.

The OM can live, die, thrive, flounder, get elected to high office, go to jail, join SI and bare his soul, whatever. I would have said something much different this time last year, but today I really don't give a damn. It helps that we've never met I guess.

I realize that a lot of you are suffering from double betrayals and that for you, it's much harder. You have my sympathies. This shit is hard enough when you can't even picture the AP's face. I'd probably be singing a different tune if he was someone close to me.

I'm focused on my wife and the fact that we're reconciled and moving forward.

[This message edited by Sal1995 at 8:26 PM, May 1st (Thursday)]

OW was on the prowl because her husband left her to marry his secretary. How horrible a person do you have to be to intentionally inflict that pain on another?

She ended up losing custody of her son who was about 9 which destroyed her. Not that her ex was any better. Felt sorry for the child to have two such sucky parents.