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imwideawake (original poster member #23386) posted at 1:18 PM on Thursday, April 17th, 2014
And told me we need to talk. He lost 2 dependants from the divorce on tax returns and it is costing him. I don't feel bad for him in the slightest. He had plenty of opportunities to stay married and quite frankly, I'm glad he didn't try very hard. I'm glad he sucked at reconciliation and it set me free! I'm so much happier now. It feels a little strange because I'm an empathetic person, so this indifference is new. But damn I'm happy to finally be here.
[This message edited by imwideawake at 7:18 AM, April 17th (Thursday)]
Together 21 years.
Married 19
Me: BW
Him XWH
dday 9/08
3 daughters, now grown
Divorced 12/04/12
hurtbs ( member #10866) posted at 1:45 PM on Thursday, April 17th, 2014
Ugh, WS pity parties are so annoying! It's like "Let me get out the world's smallest violin!" Also, they really demonstrate who the WS is - that everything happens *to* them yet they have zero responsibility for their actions or the resultant consequences. 
Me - 40 something. WXH DDay 2006, Divorced 2012
WBF DDay #1 9/2022 #2 11/2022
Single
7yrsflushed ( member #32258) posted at 2:08 PM on Thursday, April 17th, 2014
You could always offer him some cheese to go with that "whine". 
D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
Divorced 9/2/14 and loving life!
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 2:41 PM on Thursday, April 17th, 2014
OPP (Other Peoples Problems)
NMP (Not My Problem)
Care Factor Zero.
Interesting that he thinks his problem is your problem. We need to talk? Nah - we really don't.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
Leia ( member #42510) posted at 3:23 PM on Thursday, April 17th, 2014
Poor tax planning on his part doesn't constitute an emergency on your part!!! 
"Somebody get this walking carpet out of my way." Princess Leia, Star Wars
trustagain ( member #16921) posted at 3:56 PM on Thursday, April 17th, 2014
My X did the same thing, wanting a pity party. We split the boys for tax purposes. His idea. So I gave him DS1 and I took DS2. Now I did it this way on purpose. DS1 is 8 years older than DS2. When X could no longer "write-off" DS1 he stared with the every other year crap with DS2 - absolutely not I said. Whenever, X brings up crap my standard line is "Read the Agreement". That usually shuts him up!!!
WH - 55
BS (me) - 57
Son - 31
Son - 24
Dday #1 - 10/31/07
Dday #2 - 12/23/07
Dday #1,000,000 - 12/23/09 - found out EA was PA
Dday Again - 13 years later....
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 4:09 PM on Thursday, April 17th, 2014
Yay for indifference!!! 
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
Oftencheatedon ( member #41268) posted at 4:21 PM on Thursday, April 17th, 2014
I owed a lot of taxes this year myself.
And you should care about your exH's tax situation about as much as you care about mine (a total stranger).
ZERO
(big difference is that I knew this was happening and planned for it)
woundedby2 ( member #18522) posted at 6:12 PM on Thursday, April 17th, 2014
Poor widdle muffin!
Do NOT give up the tax deductions. Don't even respond to him. What a jagoff.
In 2010 I divorced the NPD assclown who cheated on me with my best friend.
Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 8:42 PM on Thursday, April 17th, 2014
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
Ashland13 ( member #38378) posted at 9:56 PM on Saturday, April 19th, 2014
Taxes are one of the longest we can go without paying. I think maybe people don't pay them thinking they can use the money for other things. But even IRS only waits so long.
Good for you. Lack of empathy is tough but a source of strength.
Ashland 13
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
-George Washington
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