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sunsetslost (original poster member #39885) posted at 1:53 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
I'm sitting outside a UPS store waiting on STBX. We will sign and notarize divorce papers. It will be, God willing, the last thing I have to do. The legal process doesn't bother me. The marriage was over when she slept with another man. I did occur to me that this is likely the last time I'll ever see her. Such a strange thought. I'll be moving out of state in a month. On to bigger and better things. I feel relieved to be almost done but there's grief there, too. It's gonna be a strange day.
Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 2:01 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
((sunset))
It gets better.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 2:04 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
Sending you strength.
(((sunsetslost)))
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
WeepingBuddhist ( member #39139) posted at 2:08 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14
IrishLass518 ( member #34373) posted at 2:09 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"
gahurts ( member #33699) posted at 2:20 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
Hope it goes smoothly.
Don't worry if you feel bad a bit. It's OK to morn what was lost and what could have been. Tomorrow begins the rest of your new life.
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie
sunsetslost (original poster member #39885) posted at 3:11 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
There's grief, of course. Everything was fine. She actually had the guts to say something about "our misfortune". I smiled, kissed her on the cheek and walked away. Then I turned in my resignation at work. I burn more bridges before 10 am than most people do all day.
Thanks for the support
Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 3:15 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
((((sunsetslost))))
On to bigger and better things.
Definitely!
eta: Wanted to add that you are a pretty remarkable person, too!
[This message edited by SisterMilkshake at 9:19 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday)]
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
DepressedDaddy ( member #41521) posted at 3:59 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
Hope it went smoothly!
ETA: I just reread you recent post...glad it went smoothly
[This message edited by DepressedDaddy at 10:11 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday)]
Since D I have become DDaddy 2.0 - or better known as DevotedDaddy
“Optimism is a strategy for making a better future. Because unless you believe that the future can be better, you are unlikely to step up and take responsibility for making it so."
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 4:05 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
((sunsetlost))
some days its just time to burn it all down and start over.
My X and I did the same thing at a store last summer. We were actually joking a bit about thing and the poor kid at the desk made a comment about what a great couple we were just about a minute before he notarized our D papers 
AWKWARD!
Then my X made a quip about wanting 1/2 of the $10 it cost to get them notarized. I quipped that I wanted half of the $250 filing fee. He shut up and we walked out and went to our cars and drove off... yep, these things often end with wimper.
Enjoy your new life!
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
DepressedDaddy ( member #41521) posted at 4:10 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
Sounds like a good tagline...
I burn more bridges before 10 am than most people do all day.
Since D I have become DDaddy 2.0 - or better known as DevotedDaddy
“Optimism is a strategy for making a better future. Because unless you believe that the future can be better, you are unlikely to step up and take responsibility for making it so."
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 4:34 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
Onward into the future!
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
MadeOfScars ( member #42231) posted at 4:37 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
I burn more bridges before 10 am than most people do all day.
Nice!
Anyway, here's to your bigger and brighter future.
"Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t." - Steve Maraboli
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 4:46 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 5:13 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
((((sunsetslost)))
It's bittersweet now, but much sweetness to come after, I know.
Abbondad ( member #37898) posted at 5:40 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
Sending support your way, SSL. You've been through hell and maintained your strength and dignity. The best is yet to come in your new life.
Divorced April Fool's Day 2014
Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.I will face my fear.I will permit it to pass over me and through me.-Dune
nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 7:52 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
Tripletrouble ( member #39169) posted at 2:20 AM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
There is always a tone or writing style in your posts that suggest bigger and better is just ahead for you. That you are ready, and embracing the new life to come. You project hope and healing. Sometimes I envy your freedom to pick up and scram. I look forward to following your new beginning and living vicariously through it. All the best to you sunset!!
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Happily remarried 2018
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.
tesla ( member #34697) posted at 3:10 AM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
sunsetslost (original poster member #39885) posted at 6:19 AM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
Thanks to you all. I felt the strength and good thougts. I really did. It was a challenging day. Hugs back to y'all. You picked me up today. You pick me up most days. 
Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.
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