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Thanks for the recommendations! I’m making a grocery list for this afternoon and am taking a lot of the ideas from this thread.

And Alyssa, no I’m not on any meds.

I'm a senior (going onto graduate school) in Public/Global Health, and I've had to take many classes on nutrition, disease, and am currently in food/stress/health.

Gaining weight by eating sugar and nutritionally empty clarions will not do anything, ANYTHING, for your health. Honestly, you're probably be better off being underweight. Depending on your cortisol levels, it could result in gaining abdominal fat, which is incredibly unhealthy.

I would gain weight through protein/fats, and building muscle (if you're so inclined).

Did your doctor tell you why you need to gain weight, or is it purely for aesthetic purposes? Either way, I'd definitely see a nutritionist.

Thanks for the info Want2help.

Did your doctor tell you why you need to gain weight, or is it purely for aesthetic purposes?

She said that my BMI fell into the underweight range. Gaining 20 pounds would put me into the healthy range (just barely). I’d also be at the weight I felt comfortable with for many years; it’s not really an aesthetic reason, it’s a weight at which I felt healthy.

Want2help when people are truly underweight we don't recommend weight gain "purely for aesthetic" purposes. Being underweight puts you at extreme risk for becoming I'll from just about any bug you come in contact with. Your immune system and decreased protein and fat levels prevent you from getting well quickly and allow you to stay ill when you catch something everyone else dosent get. I. Addition you will be wiped out for a lot longer when you are well.

You also tend to have lower energy levels and stamina when you are severely underweight.

Mel you Har gotten pretty much the same advice from all of us here high protein full fat foods.

Making sure you are getting at least 2000 calories a day and of course keeping track Of what you are eating.

me: the shake that I took was called Mammoth 2500 but that was years ago. 2 shakes a day added 2500 calories to your daily diet which is supposed to add 1 pound a week. Took me longer than that to gain the weight but that was 20 years ago and I have been keeping between 125 and 130 since then.

Unless I'm real careful, I drop weight.

Careful - a banana every day. Oatmeal and yogurt as snacks. Nuts, cheese. Potatoes. A baked potato is fast.

For nutrient dense, I go by weight. Fruit is heavier that chips. Mix up the colors of your food. Orange & dark green are good.

I'll make up a quiche, and eat that for a few days.

Thanks to all of you for the great advice. I think I’m on the right path. There isn’t a ton of great information out there for people trying to gain weight, and I really value the input you’ve given.

High protein, full fat foods, 2000 calories/day and a food diary. Bananas and smoothies. Granola and yogurt. Nuts and cheese and potatoes. Visit to a nutritionist or dietician. Visit to meta’s and jana’s houses for lessons in eating correctly. Visit to tushnurses’s home for a meal (I’ll bring the gooey butter cake for dessert, even though I realize that’s probably not what you meant as a quality high fat food).

Thanks gardenparty for sharing your story. I’m hopeful that I can be where you are someday soon. I realize it will take a bit of time. Congratulations on your success!

[This message edited by mel88 at 12:34 PM, April 26th (Saturday)]

Got any thoughts on your loss of appetite, reasons for? And why food is so unappealing presently? (I find it incredibly appealing currently, so please come visit me as well).

What about doing an exotic cookery course to regain interest in food or something? Or trying new restaurants with h or a girls supper club. Or, or, or...

Did I read

gooey butter cake for dessert

???

Can I come too? I haven't had real butter cake since I left Tacony

5ft 9 and 117lbs. I don't look good!

McDonald's milkshakes, full fat milk, cheese, carbs along with your normal healthy diet.

Going to the gym can help too. Try not to do much cardio but weights will build mass.

Hi Edie! I’d love to have a meal with you the next time I’m out your way. But please don’t be offended if I can’t finish my plate. I’m embarrassed by this problem and don’t want to be impolite by rejecting someone’s cooking.

Causes of my loss of appetite? I really have no idea. Stress, perhaps. It’s certainly been a stressful year. Although I doubt my current life is more stressful than most others’. If there’s a medical issue, I’ll leave that to my MD to figure out. I found a nutritionist yesterday that I think my health insurance will (partially) cover.

I like your ideas of cooking classes and the like for getting back to food interest. I do watch Masterchef UK without fail; I think there’s a new episode tonight?

NoLongerWantHim: Yes you read that right. Gooey butter cake. I spent much of my summertimes in St. Louis as a kid, and my grandparents would often get cakes from a certain bakery. A few weeks ago I had a craving for gooey butter cake and so I ordered one from the bakery. It arrived promptly and well packaged for its journey. It was divine.

BrokenButTrying: Good advice - I think some kind of weight building exercise is in order. I’m sorry you’re also dealing with being underweight; it’s pretty unpleasant. Take good care.