So this morning F(?)WH is on his way out the door to go to work for a few hours...he's looking for his phone...I get it and hand it to him..and he notices there's a text..he immediately handed me the phone telling me he didn't know who it was from..did I know?
Nope.
So while Im staring at the text, my heart dropping, he grabs my phone and says he'll be back in a few hours..so he, again, handles this the right way...he sees the text, he hands me the phone, and because Im not sure who it's from, he leaves his phone with me. He was very calm. Very matter of fact.
I casually tell her I dont have her name in my contacts and ask her who she is. She tells me her first name. I jump online and start tracking down the number. And wow! I got a name on my first try...usually it says "name unknown" or some such bullshit.
And it *was* the name she gave me.
Ok...so I have a name. I google...I facebook...the name matches a massage therapist 35 miles away.
Hmmm.
Heart drops...and keeps dropping...
Meanwhile, I am continuing to text this girl. I won't type out the conversation...basically she wans't very talkative, and when she was she sounded...young. It felt like I was texting one of my kids. At one point I said "This is F(?)WH,lol" And she responds with..."that's not the name in my contacts"
Oh.God. He gave her a different name.Oh GOD!!
So I asked if we've met...and she says :Not sure I go to nameofhighschool."
I said..."Oh then you're a kid? I thought you were my wife's friend messing with me."
She said no, and she was sorry, and I asked her to remove my number from her contacts and she said she would.
Ok. SO.
While I was doing all of this, I found a girl on facebook..name matched..and she went to the high school that was mentioned in the texts.
She is about 17.
Ok..help me calm down.
I think this Chris guy gave her the wrong number. I think this was all just a wrong number.
The name of the owner of the phone matches the name of a girl who goes to the high school she mentioned.
This is just random..right?
He handled it perfectly. He wasn't freaked out one bit by the first text and he left me with his phone..unasked. I know he has been at work when he says he is supposed to be there. There is no unaccounted time away from me.
My gut is quiet and has been for a long time. We are in a good place.
I just need someone to tell me either I am in denial and there is more to this...or Im just paranoid and overreacted?
I HATE that an unexplained text from a stranger can cause me to spiral down. I HATE that I can't trust him. I HATE that *I* feel like shit because I am even second guessing this text exchange between me an *Betty.
He is home..I will check back here in a bit.