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tesla (original poster member #34697) posted at 5:58 PM on Saturday, May 3rd, 2014
Last week it was the steak knives...this week asparagus.
Three years ago, the summer before D-day, I put asparagus crowns in the garden. Ex-shat loves fresh asparagus. But it takes 2-3 years before you can eat asparagus out of your own garden. We were so excited about getting that asparagus started. We had fun envisioning were we would be 3 years down the line when we were eating our first cuttings from the garden.
D-day hits. He leaves. That first summer the asparagus starts coming up...I didn't tend the garden that year...just let it go. Last summer I get interested in the garden again and see the asparagus comes back up but certainly not ready to be cut for eating. I thought long and hard about pulling it out as it was something ex-shat really loved. But I like it too...so I let it do its thing.
Last night Teslen mentions to me that something weird appeared in one of the garden beds (he's been out doing yard work this week)...came up over night he says. Walk out to take a look...it's beautiful, ready to cut stalks of asparagus!!
I've come a long way in the three years it has taken that asparagus to be edible and am going to thoroughly enjoy roasted asparagus with dinner tonight! 
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FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 6:03 PM on Saturday, May 3rd, 2014
Hell yeah, what a great metaphor for a fresh start.
Be sure to put lots of lemon butter on it.
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k94ever ( member #11176) posted at 7:12 PM on Saturday, May 3rd, 2014
I want a Teslen...............
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PurpleRose ( member #33129) posted at 10:36 PM on Saturday, May 3rd, 2014
Awesome! Hooray for asparagus! It's great with a little olive oil, salt/pepper, garlic , roasted in the oven! I need to head out to the store!
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SBB ( member #35229) posted at 1:05 AM on Sunday, May 4th, 2014
I love this - great metaphor too! I love how just like healing, these green shoots just pop out of nowhere.
TMI - there was an asparagus embargo in our house - zero tolerance. I LOVE asparagus but unfortunately I had to miss out too even though <TMI reasoning I won't spell out>.
Nowadays I have it as much as I want!! Another great metaphor.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 3:27 AM on Sunday, May 4th, 2014
IrishLass518 ( member #34373) posted at 2:44 PM on Sunday, May 4th, 2014
This is so awesome. I love the impact that Teslen has on you and Teslet. I am so happy for all of you that things have turned out so well.
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healingtree ( member #15467) posted at 3:14 PM on Sunday, May 4th, 2014
Love this story Tesla. 
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Must Survive ( member #34533) posted at 8:27 PM on Sunday, May 4th, 2014
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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 9:16 PM on Sunday, May 4th, 2014
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persevere ( member #31468) posted at 1:53 AM on Monday, May 5th, 2014
Funny how the little things remind us how life goes on isn't it? And it seems appropriate that it's time for the asparagus to be ripe enough now. ((Hugs))
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Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 3:44 AM on Monday, May 5th, 2014
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Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 6:02 AM on Thursday, May 8th, 2014
http://www.buzzfeed.com/food52/asparagus-recipes?s=mobile
Hope you have a HUGE crop.
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better4me ( member #30341) posted at 8:22 PM on Thursday, May 8th, 2014
I've got my ex's asparagus growing in my garden too. It's yummy and I'M the one enjoying it!!!
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marlie2014 ( member #40981) posted at 8:54 PM on Thursday, May 8th, 2014
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