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Brandon808 (original poster member #35619) posted at 4:50 AM on Monday, May 5th, 2014
I struggle with this a lot, especially these days. Not just about my broken picker, which IC seems to have helped a lot in repairing, but about a lot of choices I made and the ones I didn't make.
I called my sister who said it brilliantly and succinctly. Regret is a poison. I'm trying to let the poison out of my system and keep it from coming back. It's not easy for me though but being on SI helps. My family and friends help.
It's easy for all of us to have those feelings. So many changes to our lives that we never wanted and didn't ask for.
I wanted to post this as a reminder not only for myself but for anyone who feels this way. A reminder to let go of the feelings of regret. To keep letting them go because it doesn't help us live our lives. At least it doesn't help me live mine.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 5:01 AM on Monday, May 5th, 2014
((((Brandon)))) Great reminder. 
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
LosferWords ( member #30369) posted at 6:09 AM on Monday, May 5th, 2014
((Brandon))
Wonderful insight. I really appreciated reading this tonight. Very helpful to anyone in New Beginnings or in any other part of this site.
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 6:10 AM on Monday, May 5th, 2014
Thanks Brandon. I just re -read The Unbearable Lightness of Being. It touches a lot on the idea that life/history only happen once--you never know what the outcomes of other decisions would be. There's no way of testing other possible choices or running back the tape to experiment with doing things differently. It's true and part of why we have to be forgiving of our mistakes and do our best with where our past has led us.
one2ndchance ( member #14759) posted at 6:59 AM on Monday, May 5th, 2014
“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.” --Alexander Graham Bell
Married 26 years
DDay #1 2/2002
DDay #2 6/2012
Gave him his second chance and he blew it.
Divorce final: 9/9/2014
It's hard to see the road ahead if you're always looking in the rear view mirror.
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 1:23 PM on Monday, May 5th, 2014
Thanks, Brandon. As we move closer towards Mother's Day, I can feel the regret creeping in that I chose not to have children.
This is a tough week, for sure. 
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
trumanshow ( member #25624) posted at 2:46 PM on Monday, May 5th, 2014
My first read-through I read it as "broken pecker" which made little sense 
I think we all have regrets. I remind myself that if I had stayed the list would be longer
remarried 11-15-15
Her prize is a man who ran out on his wife and children. His is a woman who is too stupid to understand that she is not special, she is simply there.
better4me ( member #30341) posted at 3:25 PM on Monday, May 5th, 2014
I think we all have regrets. I remind myself that if I had stayed the list would be longer
^^^^This^^^^
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!
Brandon808 (original poster member #35619) posted at 2:55 AM on Tuesday, May 6th, 2014
Thank you
(((nowiknow23)))
(((LosferWords)))
(((norabird)))
(((one2ndchance)))
(((williesmom)))
(((trumanshow)))
and (((better4me)))
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 3:01 AM on Tuesday, May 6th, 2014
I need this reminder today. My head knows it but the heart is a little harder to convince. Still dripping with regret but at least it is significantly less than last year.
I think we all have regrets. I remind myself that if I had stayed the list would be longer.
^^Too true.
I'm also reminded of a quote that still speaks to me:
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.- Oursler"
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
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