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Pudding (original poster member #37168) posted at 9:38 PM on Thursday, May 15th, 2014
Very successful meeting with lawyer. Papers will be served Monday or Tuesday. Also changing will.
Also had confrontation with WH and told him papers will be served. He was shocked and devastated etc. Full of guilt, upset etc but we have been here before.
I am in a good place. Feeling strong and in control.. Thanks for all your support.
No response from OWH. Maybe he doesn't care. Maybe he is confronting OW. I expect she will contact WH, so we'll see how he responds.
Forged1 ( member #43418) posted at 9:41 PM on Thursday, May 15th, 2014
Me: Former BH
Divorced Q2 2015
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At this stage, I'm pretty much bulletproof.
Do no harm. But take no shit.
NeverAgain2013 ( member #38121) posted at 9:43 PM on Thursday, May 15th, 2014
1. You are my HERO.
2. Please see number #1.
3. It's very possible that the BH simply hasn't been out to get the mail. I'm HORRIBLE about mail and I hate going through it - I grudgingly drag myself out to the mailbox maybe once a week to collect it. It's usually spring-loaded because it's so packed. Mail sucks.
If there's a way to get to the BH to let him KNOW there's a letter in the box that's very important, then you should definitely do that. You don't want HER intercepting it when she gets the mail once she's home again.
4. You are my HERO.
Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.
DepressedDaddy ( member #41521) posted at 9:45 PM on Thursday, May 15th, 2014
Now that you are at this point, come on over to the S/D forum. A great bunch of people. You can share your story and progress. You can receive some great support, and who knows, maybe provide some great support as well!
Congrats on feeling stronger and standing up for yourself!
Since D I have become DDaddy 2.0 - or better known as DevotedDaddy
“Optimism is a strategy for making a better future. Because unless you believe that the future can be better, you are unlikely to step up and take responsibility for making it so."
Schadenfreude ( member #43075) posted at 9:46 PM on Thursday, May 15th, 2014
You have proved to him you mean what you say. NC meant NC, a deal was a deal. Break that deal by romantic chit chat contact, you'll get divorce papers. Simple and clean.
I hope you discussed financial protection with lawyer as he has Friday to run to the bank, etc.
Let us know how full of regret he gets this time. Just in case someone else's WS takes the same path.
ShiningAutumn8 ( member #42558) posted at 10:12 PM on Thursday, May 15th, 2014
He was shocked and devastated etc.
Never ceases to amaze me how these selfish, lying cheaters are so shocked and devastated when they are caught.
Asses. SMH
tfkeel ( member #19517) posted at 11:48 PM on Thursday, May 15th, 2014
Never ceases to amaze me how these selfish, lying cheaters are so shocked and devastated when they are caught.
Like you say, they are liars. They lie about how shocked and devastated they are, too.
They lie about anything which they think will cause "damage control" and which will make the penalties and consequences upon them less severe.
brkn_heartd ( member #30396) posted at 2:23 AM on Friday, May 16th, 2014
Support being sent to you. I hope you have a good weekend with your family.
I bet he is surprised...surprised you did something about it! Good job!
Me-57 BS
Him 65-WS
Married 38 yrs, together 40
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10
Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 1:13 PM on Friday, May 16th, 2014
((((Pudding))))
He was shocked and devastated
I'll bet. But I'd say he's more disappointed...after all, you took his cake away and knocked his sorry ass off the fence.
Hang in there...we are here for you...and you are going to be okay.
Hugs!
2025: Me-59 FWH-61 Married 41 years grown daughters- 41 & 37. 1 GS,11yo GD & 9yo GD (DD40); Five grands ages 15 to 8. D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant
NeverAgain2013 ( member #38121) posted at 1:17 PM on Friday, May 16th, 2014
Never ceases to amaze me how these selfish, lying cheaters are so shocked and devastated when they are caught.
Ain't it the truth???
I think these chuckle-heads think they're invincible or something.
Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.
sinsof thefather ( member #29295) posted at 1:44 PM on Friday, May 16th, 2014
He was shocked and devastated etc
How can he possibly be shocked and devastated - when he was only last week talking of 'future plans' with OW? 
What a... well......chuckle head.
...second star to the right and straight on till morning.
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 6:19 PM on Friday, May 16th, 2014
(((hugs))) Good for you. Please, try to take the weekend to do something good for yourself. You deserve pampering!
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
WastedTime12 ( member #34767) posted at 3:42 AM on Saturday, May 17th, 2014
(((Pudding))),
Sending strength and perseverance your way. Please keep moving forward. You deserve so much more than what he is giving.
Life is meant to be lived, not numbed!
In his quest for freedom, he set me free!
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