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GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 7:02 PM on Friday, May 23rd, 2014
Osxgirl....
Living in that situation would have made me "stabby".
Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
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osxgirl ( member #8795) posted at 8:02 PM on Friday, May 23rd, 2014
@Gaby-
Yeah - it was... unpleasant. Add to it that the one I shared a room with would set her alarm for about 2 hours before I set mine, then spend at least 2 hours hitting the snooze button.
None of my roommates could understand why I seemed so unhappy and grouchy all the time. And the one who took care of the bills harassed me for my share of the final phone bill after I went back to school. (I barely ever used the phone, used a phone card for all LD calls, and my share was FAR less than the amount of food that had never been replaced, not to mention that because of all their guests, I stayed away from the apartment as much as I possibly could).
Oh, and I was considered a real witch because after a while I quit trying to avoid stepping on bodies as I left for work in the morning.
jrc1963 (original poster member #26531) posted at 10:10 PM on Friday, May 23rd, 2014
Damn.... Oxsgirl, like Gaby said... that would definitely make me stabby!!!
Me: BSO - 56 Him: FWSO - 79 DS - 23 D-Day - 12-11-09, R - he finally came homeYour life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"
gahurts ( member #33699) posted at 3:30 PM on Saturday, May 24th, 2014
If you go into a store and eat a bunch of food and leave w/o paying, are you just borrowing?
It is actually legal to eat food in the grocery store while you are shopping as log as you pay for it before you leave.
But I strongly agree that it is a boundary issue. DSS borrowed DS's phone one night while he was working overnight so he could listen to music. He could not find his. DS says he bugged him over and over until he relented. DS is 21, he can deal with it himself but I did not like that DSS would not accept no for an answer and DS finally gave in.
DSS didn't see the issue. The issue is that it is not yours and whether you think it is a big deal or not is not the point. People have aright to their property to be in the state they want it in. When he asked to borrow the car because DS would be sleeping I said NO outright. That was not going to happen. It seems that things get broke, lost, stolen etc around DSS supposedly through no fault of his own but I refused to risk it with a vehicle. I can't afford that.
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie
Fireball72 ( member #20152) posted at 6:23 PM on Saturday, May 24th, 2014
It is actually legal to eat food in the grocery store while you are shopping as log as you pay for it before you leave.
My H does this ALL. THE. TIME. And it drives me up a wall, because I was raised NOT to do that. In my world, you pay before you eat - period. How do you know that someone doesn't open up the container, eat or drink whatever's inside, and then just leave it on the shelf? Because I've seen people do that, and I've reported them to management when I do. That's stealing - no two ways about it.
I tell my H, "If you're hungry, pick it out, I'll go up to a register and pay for it. THEN you can have it. I'll do it right now."
He thinks I'm crazy, but I insist on it. I just do NOT think that's cool.
BS (me):44 (now 52) WS (him):42 (now 50)Married 3.5 years, together 5.5 D-Day #1 - 2/10/16 #2 - 2/20/16 #3 - 5/27/16 Divorced 6/12/17 One daughter, 9, the light of my life. Finally happy.
gahurts ( member #33699) posted at 6:54 PM on Saturday, May 24th, 2014
Fireball. I agree with you. I think it's tacky to no end. And I've seen open packages which is just wrong. The first time I saw it I was a kid and I was shocked until the lady admitted to the cashier that she ate that candy bar.
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie
jrc1963 (original poster member #26531) posted at 2:04 AM on Monday, May 26th, 2014
It is actually legal to eat food in the grocery store while you are shopping as log as you pay for it before you leave.
Not to be a stickler... but how do you pay for the grapes or cherries you eat in produce when they have to be weighed? Do you stick your fat butt up on the scale when you leave?
Me: BSO - 56 Him: FWSO - 79 DS - 23 D-Day - 12-11-09, R - he finally came homeYour life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"
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