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SisterMilkshake (original poster member #30024) posted at 4:13 PM on Saturday, June 14th, 2014
that if we just learned how to give the most awesome hand jobs our WH's wouldn't commit adultery?
Yep, that is the e-email I got this morning from some marriage help site.
The site is promoting some dude's book. He contends that
90% of Men Who Have Affairs & Cheat Say They Were Not Truly Satisfied in Bed
and if we just learn how to give the best hand job ever, problem solved, no more adultery.
Okay.
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
Unagie ( member #37091) posted at 4:20 PM on Saturday, June 14th, 2014
There's this comedian that ex listens to named Patrice Oneal who believed (he passed a few years ago) that men are not meant to be monogamous because its not in their nature but women (even women who cheat) truly want to only be with one man. We've had fights about this guy.
SisterMilkshake (original poster member #30024) posted at 4:26 PM on Saturday, June 14th, 2014
I really did enjoy Patrice Oneal. Very funny man, but I agree, when he would do a set on his theory of men not being monogamous, I would have to turn him off.
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
need_hope ( member #23989) posted at 4:26 PM on Saturday, June 14th, 2014
90% of Men Who Have Affairs & Cheat Say They Were Not Truly Satisfied in Bed
I could believe that the cheaters actually SAY that but, as we all know, cheaters lie.
Anyone want to take odds on whether the author is a poor sexually unsatisfied soul who had to cheat? 
Me - happily engaged to a wonderful man
XWS - no longer matters
Tact is for people who aren't witty enough to be sarcastic.
Don't fuck with me, I fuck back.
jendo ( member #43059) posted at 4:40 PM on Saturday, June 14th, 2014
I heard a commercial on the radio yesterday for a local pricey steakhouse saying to have an affair, have a fling, fall hard for their restsurant. It was sleazy
BW Me (40ish)- now closer to 50
WH Him (40ish)- now closer to 50
Kids ages 10-20- now 18-28
Married 20 years- no2 28 years
OW 27- passed away 2/4/15 from cervical cancer
DDay 4/3/14- 6 month EA - Yes, I know he could be lying and
unfound ( member #12802) posted at 4:51 PM on Saturday, June 14th, 2014
well color me embarrassed... all that time and money wasted on IC when the real answer was SO. FREAKING. OBVIOUS.
*unfound goes and does some wrist strengthening exercises...
**face-palm
ka-mai
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Kids on the playground can be so cruel. “Get off the swings you’re like 50, and stop talking about Soundgarden, we don't even know what that is."
lovehonorcherish ( member #41843) posted at 4:53 PM on Saturday, June 14th, 2014
...jeez, wish I had known!
I am no longer accepting the things I cannot change...I am changing the things I cannot accept.
allusions ( member #25376) posted at 5:38 PM on Saturday, June 14th, 2014
Ah yes, The Golden Handjob. As elusive as Sasquatch and the Loch Ness Monster.
You can apologize over and over, but if your actions don't change, your words become meaningless.
Behind every crazy bitch is a sweet girl who just got tired of being lied to.
I've found the key to happiness: Stay away from assholes.
theroadahead ( member #43334) posted at 5:40 PM on Saturday, June 14th, 2014
Gee, is that all it takes? Glad I'm in on the secret now.
Me: BW(46)
Him: WH (46)
D-Day #1 March 2002- 1 year EA then 4 month PA with co worker
D-Day #2 March 2012 - EA with different co-worker
It's funny how sometimes the people you'd take a bullet for,are the ones behind the trigger.
Lionne ( member #25560) posted at 6:12 PM on Saturday, June 14th, 2014
Well, that explains the high level of marital satisfaction, and longevity of marriages among hookers, doesn't it!
Me-BS-71 in May HIM-SAFWH-74 I just wanted a normal life.Normal trauma would have been appreciated.
mchercheur ( member #37735) posted at 6:47 PM on Saturday, June 14th, 2014
Me: BW; Him: WH --Had 10 mo. EA/ PA with COW; Dday 5/2011 Married 35 years/Together 36 years/4 kids together, and 1 grandbaby; OW 20 years younger than us/divorced no kids Trying to R; don't know what the final outcome will be
pjkmkjm23 ( member #35778) posted at 7:52 PM on Saturday, June 14th, 2014
I just went and looked at a bunch of pictures of elderly couples that have been married 50+ years who are still very happy together.
I didn't notice any extraordinary biceps on the women 
TheIrishGirl ( member #43496) posted at 8:03 PM on Saturday, June 14th, 2014
They're all born with two hands, if all they want is a good tug why don't they stay single? And when they want a change of pace, just use the left...
Me: 33, BW Him: 40, fWH
Together 11y, married 8
2 children (ours) 7/11 & 3/14
D-day 4/18/14 I saw his 'other' email
Working on R, and it's working
solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 11:14 PM on Saturday, June 14th, 2014
Hand jobs? That explains so much. I thought it was blowjobs. If only I'd known.
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
shatteredheart12 ( member #43567) posted at 11:30 PM on Saturday, June 14th, 2014
So glad to find out "that" is why men stray, I better start practicing
FoggedIn ( member #40329) posted at 12:34 AM on Sunday, June 15th, 2014
OMG Pjk...
I cried laughing so hard!
BW (40)
WH (55)
Blended family, 6 kids, 1 dil & i gd
Dday 1 8/10/13 PA ONS CL whore
DDay 2 8/15/15 -TT 3 Other PA w/escorts from 2004-2013? Not sure on dates. Status - No Clue!! Calling D attorney for advice
simplydevastated ( member #25001) posted at 2:46 AM on Sunday, June 15th, 2014
This poses an interesting question. If women need to get better at hand jobs to keep our husbands from straying, what do the men have to do to keep their wives from straying? Hmmmmmm.....
Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)
mike7 ( member #38603) posted at 2:58 AM on Sunday, June 15th, 2014
it's amazing the tripe that gets published. there's a female author, who had an affair and got divorced, and then wrote a book about "why women have affairs." Very little of it addresses the fact that unhappy women can do other things besides have affairs. These people don't understand that cheating is a problem that comes from within.
it's like writing a book about how to place products on a shelf so shoplifters won't shoplift. And then not mentioning anything that identifies that the problem is the shoplifter, not the product.
BH 60
WW 58
Two grown kids
DDay 1/15/2013
Gotmegood ( member #41407) posted at 6:28 AM on Sunday, June 15th, 2014
And you know what really pisses me off about absurd theories like that? It just perpetuates the blame the victim mentality that pervades popular thinking.....seriously pisses me off
Me: faithful wife 62.
Him: WH 64 , prostitute 20 yr old
DDay: 8-13-2013
Status: boinging up and down like a yo-yo
mike7 ( member #38603) posted at 6:36 AM on Sunday, June 15th, 2014
yep, if she had just had more sex with me, i wouldn't have cheated. all the blame is on the victim. no responsibility to the cheater?
BH 60
WW 58
Two grown kids
DDay 1/15/2013
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