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This is how I see it and use it as my rule of thumb. Betrayal and cheating are anything you wouldn't do in front of your spouse. Period.

Geek

Is her boss married?

And you really need to communicate with your wife that she was cheating and is cheating.

That she got used and she better wakeup.

But most importantly that you will be quite fine without her if she is not ready to grow up and act like an adult.

Now go put the fear of God in the OM. He needs it and deserves it.

HM

HM nailed it.

My husband kissed OW. They in fact did not have any alone time. It still was enough to rock our marriage. I kicked him out of the house for three weeks. He cheated plain and simple. Just because he only kissed her once doesn't mean that he wasn't contemplating sex. For them the opportunity just never presented itself. He actually said her name in his sleep one night. We all worked together so I really didn't think much about it.

If it went to a kiss then my guess would be there was some inappropriate phone conversations or phone sex and a whole lot more you don't know about. With my husband the kiss was a full blown EA that did turn PA when they kissed.

Yeah it's cheating. And also I hope you have a good job to support her when this blows up at work and both are eventually let go by HR. One thing every company dislikes these days are sexual harassment lawsuits within the organization. Regardless of who started it and who is the boss or subordinate. Both employees are usually let go. Tell her good luck with that.