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ChangeMaker ( member #43899) posted at 10:24 PM on Tuesday, August 5th, 2014
My STBXWW was in a big hurry too (we are common law though, so no waiting period). I decided to capitalize and force some things into the separation agreement by threatening to drag things out.
I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
DDay - June 2014
DD 2008 & 2011
Divorced April 1, 2015
Jls0320 ( member #41192) posted at 10:25 PM on Tuesday, August 5th, 2014
We are separated in the same house right now. He wanted to separate to think things through, 2wks later I found out he had been breaking NC w OW and I filed 2 days later. He should be served this wk sometime I hope. Definitely don't rush since he's pushing for it, make sure you get what you are owed
Me: BS 2 young kiddos
Him: EXWH, SA/NPD, Craigslist, porn, cam sites. EA/PA with disgusting co-worker troll
Too many DDays 9/13-1/15, too many chances to be a good man
Together 16 yrs, married 7yrs,
Divorced 2/11/15
I deserve to be the ONLY one
idontknowwhy5 ( member #42648) posted at 1:08 AM on Wednesday, August 6th, 2014
I didn't wait for separation. I mean not legal separation that is. I filed right after I discovered she had broken her agreement to cease all contact with OM. Then I stupidly withdrew the divorce filing after an Oscar performance of regret. After months (6?) of repeated discoveries and repeated promises to stop, I just had a lot of time in my head to play it out. I decided out of both shit sandwiches I'd rather eat the one that meant I didn't have to live with her and have my kids see me become a shell of a man.
DDays- too many
Status - In D.
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 4:13 AM on Wednesday, August 6th, 2014
Kicked his ass out in late March. Told him we were done. Pushed for a dissolution instead of divorce as it was faster. Was delayed because we had to agree on settlement before I could file and he was living out of state with latest OW and him-hawing on getting me info. Filed completed dissolution paperwork in August. Hearing and final court approval was in October. Not all states offer a dissolution option, but I am thankful mine does. 
[This message edited by Phoenix1 at 10:15 PM, August 5th (Tuesday)]
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
betrayedpregnant ( member #43304) posted at 1:51 AM on Saturday, August 9th, 2014
wow. your husband is a major selfish entitled asshole. Really really reminds me of my own.
trying to convince you it's not your bedroom???? when you were 3 months pregnant????? then demanding divorce because his main concern is him dating again???? Sorry, I know you're sad that he wants a divorce so quickly, but this guy is so selfish, he can't think about anyone beside himself. Maybe it's not such a bad thing to be divorced from him ASAP.
But my story is :
11yrs married
I was 6 mos pregnantFebruary 23 , 2014 he said "I love you so much until I die. You're my dream come true. I'm so lucky you want to have my baby. I don't want to have a child with anyone but you"
3 DAYS LATER he left me, saying "I don't feel spiritually complete. But we can't legally divorce until the baby is born"
5 weeks later April 6 2014 I found out that he was already shacking up with orangutan princess.
May 21 2014 a week after the baby was born, I was SERVED.
so from separation to being served is less than 3 months, but that's because he had to wait until the baby is born. If he didn't it probably would have been the next day!
betrayedpregnant ( member #43304) posted at 2:00 AM on Saturday, August 9th, 2014
I forgot to say sorry for the loss of your pregnancy. I was 6 months pregnant when he left and 7 months pregnant when I found out about affair. My baby did not do well. My doctors were afraid they might have to take out the baby early. My deep condolences.
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