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Thank u all for ure support and patience to make me understand. I didn't want to tell my friends about this atm.i will get tested.he was looking for transsexual escorts....no he is straight I guess he didn't want penetration.i think I've given my all to make him understand over the 3 yrs how much his behavior affected me I've become an extremely rude always angry person now....The helplessness of the situation just puts one to the edge.im gonna hang in there n try to get my ducks in a row! How ill.manage to do that in the same house I'm not sure but this blog is very helpful.everyone experience are different to a certain extent but we all have one thing is common cheating!

Thank u all its so easy to be I. Denial like they say ignorance is bliss..

Thank u all for ure support and patience to make me understand. I didn't want to tell my friends about this atm.i will get tested.he was looking for transsexual escorts....no he is straight I guess he didn't want penetration.i think I've given my all to make him understand over the 3 yrs how much his behavior affected me I've become an extremely rude always angry person now....The helplessness of the situation just puts one to the edge.im gonna hang in there n try to get my ducks in a row! How ill.manage to do that in the same house I'm not sure but this blog is very helpful.everyone experience are different to a certain extent but we all have one thing is common cheating!

Thank u all its so easy to be I. Denial like they say ignorance is bliss..

Read up on the 180. If you are going to stay in the same house, and try to stay sane it will be the only thing that will save you.

Throw him out of your bedroom, for starters, you don't need to be sleeping next to that.

Tell him you want nothing to do with him until he starts to fix his shit, and do it in action not words, because his words mean nothing.

You can do this, keep reading, keep posting.

(((and strength)))

You are not helpless, honey. You will find it within yourself to survive this. You have to do it for you and for your baby. You do not have a choice and denial is a very dangerous choice. I think you know that by now.

You have received excellent advice from others who have been through a similar experience. As you can see, the survivors are not destroyed by what happened to them. Quite the contrary. One thing is for certain - anyone who has survived the kind of experience you are going through took definitive action. They did not rug-sweep or go into denial.

For you, I think the best action plan would be:

1. Try to get him to leave the house. If you cannot accomplish this, do not share the same bedroom with him and under no circumstances should you have sex with him. He is NOT safe. Even if he says he is using condoms - do not believe him. Besides, STD's can sometimes be transmitted even with condoms and he is having sex with very high-risk people.

2. Do NOT leave him alone with the baby. You need to supervise. If he is looking for transsexuals, he is far into the addiction process and this addiction does progress. You cannot take that risk.

3. Read up on and practice the 180. You are not in reconciliation, even if you are living under the same roof. You need to emotionally detach from him. Do not listen to his bs, his blame-shifting, pity plays and his attempts at high drama. Ignore him. If you feel you are in danger, either call the police or leave with your child and go to a safe place immediately. Use your best judgment when dealing with him.

4. Get into the doctor and get a full STD panel run on yourself. The sooner, the better.

5. Make an appointment for individual counseling so that you can get some help in real life.

6. See an attorney and find out your rights.

7. Educate yourself on sex addiction. There are many sources on the Internet. Read. You will see some conflicting information, but overall, this will help you to understand what is going on with him much better.

Keep posting as you take these steps. You will get a lot of support and excellent advice.

(((Annie)))

[This message edited by somer222 at 2:35 PM, August 11th (Monday)]

I'm so sorry you are here.

He is lying to you, he is cheating on you. He is not changing his ways, so continuing to confront him with questions will just repeat the cycle of you ask a qeustion, he lies.

e says I just texted I didn't go but I will if u keep pestering

that's just sick. He's threatening to cheat on you if you don't drop it? what an ass

Take care of yourself, read the resources here, take care of your baby, focus on you and your baby.

Well well what do u know....I thought I'll sit down talk to him tell him let's start over even though he never admitted to anything at all.i said maybe if I'm nice n we stay good it would all work wonderful.....it was 3 days max and today back to square one he is still looking for escorts, bj partners strippers, privateclubs, party houses.n well the porn is here to stay.i thought I would be able to change things but I guess a cheater is a cheater ....I don't get it he's so nice does what I want takes me to places.u know does the father role lately when he wants to.

But I guess now.i.know for sure no amount of sweet talk.will lead anywhere he knows I'll never have proof n he can always get away with it like he always has.although me getting proof might not lead anywhere I still want it.this is sad seeing my life at an ends like this ...I.never ever imagined this .hurt again