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Too_Trusting ( member #99) posted at 3:36 AM on Saturday, August 9th, 2014
I am so sorry, SD. Losing a beloved pet is losing a member of your family. Hugs...
"Anyone perfect must be lying; anything easy has its cost. Anyone plain can be lovely; anyone loved can be lost." Barenaked Ladies
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 4:08 AM on Saturday, August 9th, 2014
(((((SD))))) I'm so very sorry, honey.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 5:13 AM on Saturday, August 9th, 2014
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 5:55 AM on Saturday, August 9th, 2014
((((SD))))
((((Sammy))))
It seems like, of all possible passings, this must have been the best for both of you--peaceful and together.
solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 1:40 PM on Saturday, August 9th, 2014
Oh, no! I'm so very sorry 
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 5:07 PM on Saturday, August 9th, 2014
I'm so sorry.
((((((sd)))))
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
k94ever ( member #11176) posted at 5:23 PM on Saturday, August 9th, 2014
You were there with her. The last thing she saw and felt was your love.
You did good.
{{{hugs}}}
k9
BS:61
WS: 53
Betrayed: 24 years
Affairs: 15 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.
happenedtome ( member #6042) posted at 6:29 PM on Saturday, August 9th, 2014
(((((SD))))). I am so sorry.
dreamlife ( member #8142) posted at 6:35 PM on Saturday, August 9th, 2014
I'm so very sorry.
((((huge hugs))))
~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~
"He called me a bitch.
I called him an ambulance."
Linda H.)
gypsybird87 ( member #39193) posted at 7:15 PM on Saturday, August 9th, 2014
((((SD)))))
Enormous hugs to you. I'm so sorry.
Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem
Follow your heart, but take your brain with you. ~ Alfred Adler
Letting go of the outcome is about the most empowering thing you can do for yourself. ~ LosferWords
simplydevastated (original poster member #25001) posted at 9:28 PM on Saturday, August 9th, 2014
Thank you for all your support and hugs. They mean a lot to me.
Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)
Audrina ( member #31522) posted at 4:57 AM on Sunday, August 10th, 2014
AW...I am sooo sorry. I am sure that Sammy felt your love during her last moments. Cherish the memories.
I have some 4 legged friends in Heaven who will take good care of her.
Big hugs.
Afraid2LoveAgain ( member #11185) posted at 12:53 PM on Sunday, August 10th, 2014
I'm so sorry--Sammy will always be there on your shoulder.
(((SimplyDevastated)))
BW -- 58
Divorced 2001
Re-married 2014--on what would have been our 35th anniversary
dameia ( member #36072) posted at 6:45 PM on Sunday, August 10th, 2014
So sorry for your loss SD. (((hugs)))
Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12
Trust is like paper. Once it's crumpled it can never be perfect again.
simplydevastated (original poster member #25001) posted at 11:32 PM on Sunday, August 10th, 2014
Thank you Audrina, that is so sweet.
Thank you everyone for the continued support. I miss her so much. I keep thinking who's going lay on my chest now? Who's going to keep my toes warm at the dinner table and at my desk? Who's going to push me off my office chair while I'm writing?
We still have one sweet kitty, but I want my Sammy back.
We started moving today. I opened the stockings container and Sammy's stocking was right on top. I was going to make new stockings this year, too.
We're going to make her a head stone out of those mosaic stepping stones you get in the craft stores. We started looking at them today.
I miss my kitty
[This message edited by simplydevastated at 5:33 PM, August 10th (Sunday)]
Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)
Jomarion ( member #43659) posted at 2:28 PM on Monday, August 11th, 2014
Simply Devestated, such a hole is left in one's life when a beloved pet dies. The cuddles, the silly and comforting things they do they now will do no more. When a beloved pet dies, my body, unconsciously it seems, 'searches' for the pet - I reach out my hand - but he is not there - I wait for the morning meow at the food bowl - but there is no meow. The longing is so painful.
The memorial you plan on making for Sammy is a wonderful way to remember and honor his life.
My sympathy to you. I am happy Sammy had such a loving person to care for him in his life. Sounds like he knew that too. I feel certain he misses and remembers and continues to love you too.
me:BGF, 54, American immigrant. one son. me and my ex get along great, the most amicable split imaginable!
him:WBF,43, Polish immigrant
together since 2006,
DDay:October28,2009,after his 3 teen kids push him to cheat with OW.
5 betrayed me
itainteasy ( member #31094) posted at 5:42 PM on Monday, August 11th, 2014
(((((((SD)))))))))
RIP, beautiful Sammy.
simplydevastated (original poster member #25001) posted at 6:49 PM on Monday, August 11th, 2014
Jomarion, I know how that is. Sammy made a bed out son's old toddler arm chair. The chair is directly across from my bedroom door in the living room. I keep looking at the the chair in the morning hoping get to see her there.
I also look under my desk every evening before I go to bed. I've done that every night for years to make sure I didn't shut her in my room at night with no access to the litter box or food bowls. She reminded me of the cat at the end (or beginning) of the Flintstone cartoons. Fred would put the cat out and it would jump through the window and Fred would be locked out. That was Sammy. I would put her in the living room at night, I would turn my back to go back into my room and she would run back in. We did this three times each night. 
She always sat behind my head on the back of the sofa. She would either clean my hair or put her paw on the top of my head. There was a few times she would slip off the back and land on my shoulder
She was silly.
Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)
Crushed1 ( member #6449) posted at 8:01 PM on Monday, August 11th, 2014
(((simplydevastated))) I'm so sorry. (((sammy)))
~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"
~STRENGTH~PEACE~HOPE~FAITH
JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 8:12 PM on Monday, August 11th, 2014
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