Plan is to work on the marriage and see how I feel. her recent actions are so self absorbed. If I sense her turning away I'll contact his wife and see if she feels the same way. If I have something more than a gut feeling I'll change the locks, lawyer up, and concentrate on being the best working single father I can.
Either she gets the help necessary to figure out why she did what she did or I'm noping the fuck out.
What does "work on the marriage" mean? What is that plan? What actions? What words?
she wanted to continue the separation so she could breath and get her head straight.
What does "breath" mean, and "get her head straight"? Like this: "she comes home blotto at 11:15 on a Monday night. Too drunk to drive home. ... they do the same job and have to communicate to do it ... They were together drinking but my gut tells me she over consumed because she was nervous and they didn't have an opportunity to have an intimate talk. ... she mentioned him being out sick today as a reason why she got so much work done, I couldn't help but cringe. He's 300 miles away and just a click or phone call away, they have to communicate to guide deal flow and get their jobs done."
Do you think any marriage is going to get any better with this crap going on? That's just spinning your wheels. This is NOT "breath," not "get her head straight." This is a party girl, pining and chasing for other man, not reflecting on herself.
Hopefully his wife will make him quit and SOON.
Someone told me something a long time ago, I think it's a popular phrase: "Hope is not a plan." You cannot control her, only yourself. What do the therapists say about this type of stuff? Does therapist ask about anything wife is reflecting to "breath" and "get her head straight"? Talk at all about other man staying in touch? Is this therapist about getting your marriage reconciled, or focusing wife to be "happy"?
[This message edited by wk55hn at 8:28 PM, March 10th (Tuesday)]
