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grayday (original poster new member #52221) posted at 1:17 AM on Tuesday, March 22nd, 2016
Easy to say, hard to do. I understand what I need to do, I just can't bring myself to do them. :(
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confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 3:18 AM on Tuesday, March 22nd, 2016
I know. It's really hard. The thing is,he's not giving you a choice.
You can do this. You're stronger than you realize.
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
bbyg98 ( member #51580) posted at 3:38 AM on Tuesday, March 22nd, 2016
you won't be able to tolerate it. period. you will get fed up. if he is remorseful he will begin looking for new employement as soon as you ask him to.
I ripped off the bandaid and I am free at last! :) Thank god & SI😋
LadyBluebell ( member #49380) posted at 4:09 AM on Tuesday, March 22nd, 2016
He. Is. Lying. To. You. About all of it. Run. Now. You can mourn the relationship as much as you want, but please please realize you are not mourning the man you are losing. You are mourning the realization that he never really existed. you are lucky you can do this before you marry him, before you have children. Do not let him drag you in any deeper. He is playing you for a fool.
Yes, it is SO HARD for him to stop having feelings for her while he works with her. SO HARD that he would rather hurt the woman he supposedly loves than look for a new job. It's SO HARD that he even takes her to look at an apartment with him.
HE IS STILL CHEATING ON YOU.
This site is about surviving infidelity. Not staying with someone who remains unfaithful.
He will not "snap out of it". He LIKES it this way. He gets to have his cake and eat it too. he gets too see how much bullshit you will stand for, gets to watch you play the pick me game.
We are saying run run run because you have the chance to escape the pain we all feel, the pain of trying to make it work with someone after you have built a life and had children. You are free to leave and find someone who will respect you. Do it. For all of us.
Me: BS, 30s, him: WH, same
married 10yrs, w/kids
7 month EA, DD 2/15 while pregnant
NC 4/15 shaky bargaining until 11/15 ultimatum.
Still working on the rest of it.
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