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cajun123 ( member #48989) posted at 8:54 PM on Thursday, May 19th, 2016
T/J....Bigger, sure glad to see you posting again. Your pragmatic wisdom has surely been missed. So glad your back!! 
JM72 (original poster member #50760) posted at 9:58 PM on Friday, May 27th, 2016
Update -
Things have been slow where I work and they want me to come in Tuesday at 1:00 to talk about my position.
I might be losing my job on top of all this other shit.
Me - BS (43)
Her - the Princess (AKA "the victim") (44)
Married 25 years, together 27
Dday - January 2016
DS - 25, DS - 18, DD - 16, DD - 13
Divorcing - To thy own self be true
healingroad ( member #41920) posted at 10:10 PM on Friday, May 27th, 2016
Ugh, sorry JM that sucks. Hope it turns out ok.
GotTheTshirtToo ( member #51377) posted at 11:52 PM on Saturday, May 28th, 2016
I hope the worst does not happen - but if it should..............
The day I finally got my XW out of the house (by buying her half with a 90% loan) was the day I was told my job was redundant. I could probably have stopped the deal but wanted her out so much I never considered picking up the 'phone.
Twenty+ years on - I've a brilliant life, superb partner, nice house, adequate income and generally excellent health. Got a long way down once or twice, but perseverance and a good friend saw me through.
redsox13 ( member #43391) posted at 5:40 PM on Sunday, May 29th, 2016
Sorry man. I hope you are ok Tuesday.
BS - 45
fWW - 43
Simply getting better.
shareonhearts ( member #52869) posted at 6:04 PM on Monday, May 30th, 2016
Hello JM72
I will be thinking of you on Tuesday...Hold tight. I ended up paying my Ex husband even after loosing my position...I was just done with his ways. I cancelled cable, stopped dinning out, cut down with only basic needs. It was the ABSOLUTE best thing I have ever done for myself. I had adored him, once free, I finally realized what I had felt responsible for all those years. Granted, I had no children...only him. Your wife may be a weight off your shoulders. Hoping the best for you...no matter what happens.
Fool me once shame on me......Fool me twice shame on YOU!
craverz ( member #52400) posted at 11:56 PM on Monday, May 30th, 2016
Well, things might be slow at work, so your boss could be calling you in to offer you the head position over some consolidated sections. I will be hoping and praying for the best news possible for you.
atalosss ( member #47882) posted at 1:06 AM on Tuesday, May 31st, 2016
Sending you strength, JM!
"You can't ride two horses with one ass" Channel66
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 3:43 AM on Tuesday, May 31st, 2016
Strength my friend. Whatever happens, I have every faith and confidence that you will work through it.
Sending positive MOJO.
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
JM72 (original poster member #50760) posted at 12:32 AM on Wednesday, June 1st, 2016
Thanks everyone. Wasn't too bad. My days off were switched from Sunday & Monday, to Saturday & Sunday. The catch is, they don't have anyone to check and correct the work on my off days, so when I come in on Monday, I also have to do Saturday & Sunday's paperwork, but that won't be too bad. A couple of extra hours of work. No problem.
And then the fun began. I get to work, my daughter calls me - "What's for dinner?"
I don't know, ask mom. I'm at work - "Mom went out for drinks with friends"
No problem. I'll leave work and come feed you, after all, happy hour only happens 7 days a week.
Me - BS (43)
Her - the Princess (AKA "the victim") (44)
Married 25 years, together 27
Dday - January 2016
DS - 25, DS - 18, DD - 16, DD - 13
Divorcing - To thy own self be true
CopiousTears ( member #6562) posted at 12:42 AM on Wednesday, June 1st, 2016
Glad your job is safe, JM! I hope this near-miss spurs you into some action. As for the rest of it (WW going to happy hour, hungry kid at home), DOCUMENT!
BW(me) 48
WH - 48
Married 20+ years
Kids
DIVORCED/Remarried/DIVORCING same WH again. Same OW.
atalosss ( member #47882) posted at 1:35 AM on Wednesday, June 1st, 2016
I'm so relieved about your job, JM! That's not bad news at all, it just shows that you're needed.
Let your ww bugger off. You're a better role model anyway.
"You can't ride two horses with one ass" Channel66
wonderpets ( member #35901) posted at 9:00 AM on Wednesday, June 1st, 2016
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sensibletinch ( member #45491) posted at 4:13 PM on Wednesday, June 1st, 2016
Good thing about your job
As for parenting, please document all this very carefully, your WW is unbelievable.
montana79 ( new member #52749) posted at 4:18 PM on Wednesday, June 1st, 2016
I'll just ditto what sensibleinch said!
JohnA1 ( member #53128) posted at 7:02 PM on Sunday, June 12th, 2016
Hi JM,
There will be an act 3,4,5. The only thing you can do is to prepare yourself mentally for it. Remember, define yourself by your reaction to her actions.
For example what will you do when you come home and find her and OM in your house? What will you say when she says "we are all adults here, it was to far for him to drive, you need to be more muture about this"?
Have an exWW
No children
No contact with ex since divorce.
Married 13 years
Divorced
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