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She had a new job last year and ended up losing a lot of weight. I noticed that but made no connection.

She stopped 'talk texting' and started typing in texts.

She started carrying that phone around every where (she always left it whereever, sometimes for days at time)

She wanted to have sex, lots of it and I discovered that she was now shaved down below.

Her phone battery was always almost dead so she couldn't respond to my messages, but phone records showed that she was texting someone else, alot, at hours that made no sense for her.

Between DD2 and DD3 my WW's parents were staying with us for a visit. My 22 year old son that lives out of state called me cell phone but I didn't answer. He then called my WW's cell phone and she let me have it and I talked to him. I snooped in her phone for a minute and saw messages between her and the OM but didn't know how to open the messages in this particular messaging app.

I wish now that I would have locked myself in the bathroom and figured it out and read them. I had a chance at the truth and I blew it. Those messages have been deleted and I will never know how deep the affair went.

WW had 4 "girls weekends" in a 13 month period. I had never hung around the girls she said she was going with. They were from a company that she quit working for a year before that. but they "stayed in touch and still liked to hang out"

I knew being a stay at home mom was hard and ENCOURAGED HER TO GO. I asked zero questions. I was just happy my wife could get a break and relax.

What really happened is that I watched our 3 kids for those 4 weekends while OM watched my wife. God that kills me.

My W would stay late at work or go into the office on weekends even though she had given her notice. Also her manager did not want her people working extra since that could justify getting another person into the department.

At the time, I thought it was odd with her working late but I knew W was a very committed employee. Plus W mentioned she want to finish some tasks before she left her job.

Little did I know rather than working late, she was hooking up with the OM.

July 2015, I looked at his phone for the first time ever when he started being really protective of it. Texting in the garage etc. There were texts from some girl and he sent her texts and pictures while camping with our 11 year old son. Somehow, he convinced me that even though she was a stripper, they text with their clients to drum up business. I believed him!! Even though they said "I miss you I wish you were here!" He faked trying to reconcile and stay away but his stupid phone gave him way again in June of this year. Some girl named Tanya needed a ride to work. I still didn't think he was having an affair. He told me he was just helping her out because she was trying to get her life back on track. Then I found the bank statements with the charges to a hotel. I always wondered if he was doing it with any strippers and I finally got my answer. Stupid and trusting and willing to try to work it out. Not any more.

I probably answered this. But the absolute dumbest thing I missed is that STBX did not love me. Ever.