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You went through a rather risky period. I think WW was mentally disturbed because of her affair and went in to self destruction mode just to get at you. There is a good possibility she will come after you once she fall more and more apart from the OM

Mgtr,

How are you doing? Can we have an update?

Manny...how goes it?

Hi All,

I wondered how Manual was too.

He pops up, firing on all cylinders, on page 9 of this thread:

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=600376&AP=161

He seems to be doing fine, which is wonderful to see.

Hi everyone, the divorce is still in process but we should be over it soon. She has been amicable in splitting up assets and she and the affair partner broke up "told me she dumped that loser"

She has mentioned wanting to try reconciliation in the future and that she's sorry. I don't know about that though. I have gotten to the point where I don't care about her that much anymore. She gave me some of the best memories in my life, but also some of my worst. Neither of us live in the house, and the house is for sale. I live with my parents at the moment still lol.

I have been focusing on myself. I'm not dating anyone, but a few days ago I hooked up with this hot older woman I met at a bar. Damn was it awesome, my self esteem is back after being so low after what she did. I get sad sometimes, but don't cry anymore. I'm excited for what the future holds, thank you for checking up on me.

[This message edited by manualgtr at 7:23 PM, March 21st (Tuesday)]

Manual, please don't be afraid to remain part of the community here, your experience may help others along the way too.

I'm at home alone... while my wife is currently fucking another man as we speak. She has been accommodating to my agreement because of guilt. I feel so alone. I just want this divorce to be over and done with. She has taken my distance and 180ing to run into her boyfriends arms. Talk about humiliating. Her texts are still coming up on my iMac so she's planning to spend the night with him friday and Saturday cause he won't have his kids. Also telling him how she can't wait to spend the night with him.

Less than two months ago. Print out that excerpt, clip it into your wallet, and read it when you consider being with her again.

"told me she dumped that loser"

But she dumped you first. I don't think her judgment is great. My opinion is, other man didn't want your wife's baggage. You were used to her, and you loved her. He loved sex, and put up with the baggage, but that only goes so far. He liked it better when she came for sex and then went home to you.

It would be great justice if she had to stay with the other man. The best consequence and punishment would be having to be together.

If you do get back with your wife, or give her a shot, I suggest being the other man this time. Let some other guy put up with all her other shit, this time you just get the sex and I love you's, let the other guy deal with all her day-to-day crap. I know, you aren't made that way, and you can't treat people like that.

I'm glad you're doing well - and you are doing extremely well - especially given that you only found out less than three months ago.

Cougar hunting!

Nice man, congrats with the bullseye

Wtg mgtr!!!

Manualgtr,

This is my first comment on your post.

I saw your story first on another forum and continued to follow you here.

What a terrible trip with what looks like a successful ending for you.

Good for you !!!

Nice to hear you are doing well. And that WW affair crashed and burned. More likely is that HE dumped the loser.

The good thing, is that if for some reason you wanted to give her another chance, she would have to move heaven and earth to make up for the shit show she pulled.

[This message edited by MickeyBill2016 at 10:17 PM, March 21st (Tuesday)]

...and you wouldn't have to be married to her either, just sayin'.

Great update, MGTR! Very happy that things are getting better for you. In fact, it looks like you might be ahead of schedule with putting this behind you. I'm sure there will be a few more peaks and valleys before the ride is done, but those too will lessen with additional distance from the source of your pain.

Don't stop moving forward now; I suspect there is a much better relationship for you down the road.

Congratulations on ending a marriage with a cheater. You have demonstrated you forgave your WW but stood true to your values. You hold your head high and move forward in life, and not be shackled to a cheater. You will be surprised how quickly you will heal. I'm sure we will hear more about you in the New Beginnings section.

manualgtr,

I am glad you are doing fine.

Regarding "dumping the looser" Staten, the translation is that when she was free to have a serious relation with OM, he probably asked her to slow down and keep things the same way for a while, then she realized that she was just OM speak urinal and maybe a free house for him and his kids. Well what did she expect from a guy that chase married woman?

I really hope you stop talking to her for good after D is final

Good luck

Last thing,

Don't believe for a minute that she is remorseful or even regrets her affair. Dont forget that she throw you like garbage in the flip of a coin.

I am sorry but you are her Plan B

Glad to hear it Manny !!

On a personal note:

a few days ago I hooked up with this hot older woman I met at a bar

I should probably start getting out more LOL

Mtgr

Although I’m glad you are doing OK then I feel sad it had to go this way.

IMHO there really aren’t any winners in infidelity. It’s all losers per se. It becomes more of an issue of how good a survivor you are. To me her wishes of a possible future relationship are irrelevant. By all means be amicable while finalizing the divorce, but once that’s over then simply base whatever future relationship (or non-relationship) on what’s best for YOUR recovery.

Yes, please do not drop off the forum. I think that your experience and that to come of moving on could be very valuable to many. Good luck!

Manual. In case you are still out there I was wondering how you are doing.

Hope the answer is great.

Your thread is one of the first I read when I joined in April and it really resonated with me. I saved a link to it.