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The way I found out about my FWH's ONS with a prostitute was when something told me to check his computer.

I found a picture of the belly surface of his body with an erection in the foreground, and the prostitute in the background, primping in the mirror.

That was 10 years ago this Feb. 11.

I could recognize her in a crowd today - that is if she was naked.

He had sent the picture to a supposed stranger on a "Find a Mate" website. Told me it wasn't sexual.

Lovely.

It will never leave my mind.

I also saw explicit video of fWW and OM. I know there are pictures but I never saw them.

What helps is the fact that this was discovered very shortly after DDay and before trickle truth was finished, so I kind of lump it in with the initial discovery of emails; it's not like I saw tit well into recovery or anything. Strangely, the explicit nature of the video (strictly a 30s closeup of PIV sex) makes it easier to take than if I was able to see her face or if she was talking or anything. I know it's her, but the relative anonymity of it makes it easier to cope with.

I know this won't help in your case, but yes it is possible to move on, whatever that means. It's burned in my brain but isn't quite as debilitating as it was 6 months ago.

I too saw photos of the OW. She looks like a manly version of me. Sadly it hurts like hell. As an attractive woman it makes you feel like what the hell - did he go blind.

At the end of the day - I know it doesn't matter who is in that photo - its a wet hole. It is horrible to see the man you love at his lowest moment.

So sad that you have once again wounded your spouse with this trash.

Like mouthkeptshut, I discovered a homemade video of WW and OM having sex. It was an edited 13 minute video involving 6-7 acts/positions. There were a couple of photos but there were video captures. My WW face only appeared in the video for a second or two. The OM was smart enough not to show his face. I could tell it was my W by her voice and wedding ring.

When we would have sex, WW would want it to be dusk or night, no lights. But in the video, there she is in the bright lights.

That video is burned into my brain and will be there until I die. Some things you can unsee.

I never saw pictures of X with Shrek or either of them sending sexting selfies. I'm still disgusted by him anyway and divorced him because I KNEW I would never be able again to stomach his touch. The one time he tried to hug me, I threw up.

Each person is different. Plenty of stories where the BS was able to R even after seeing pictures.

If you are trying remorseful, let her figure out if this is a deal breaker or not. Respect her decision, and give her time.