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This woman "made you feel like an alpha male". In other words, "Did stuff to massage and inflate your ego". Built you up.

With me so far?

Now, something happens that leads to a break. The reason for the break isn't particularly important. And during said "break", she goes off and bangs some guy while drugged up.

She then trundles out her braggy and trashy little story about being wrecked by a large penis etc while talking to you about moving in to your flat.

In other words, she weaponized her drugged up sexual encounter and used that to shatter your ego, your libido and your sense of self-esteem. Because she's all forthright and shit, right?

Wrong. She did and said that because she knew it would hurt you.

There was malice in that. There was premeditation in that. There was intent in that, and the intent was to do damage.

That's the very same as if she turned around one day and started breaking dinner plates over your head and hitting you. Or pulled a knife out of a drawer and gave you a few slashes with it.

That's a person who has quite clearly demonstrated that not only is she capable of engaging in behavior that will wound you, she's prepared to do it. And you know this because she told you.

Professionally, I deal with intimate partner abusers every day. And not all of them are male.

This woman ticks every box for the precursors to domestic violence that I can think of. If she hasn't put her hands on you before now, she will in the future. And you can take that predictionto the bank. She is a wolf in sheep's clothing. She is a predator. She has just done the psychological and emotional equivalent of baring her fangs and snapping them within an inch of your throat.

And, y'know, she would like to move in.

Shut that door, and nail large, crooked pieces of timber over it.

[This message edited by Forged1 at 5:02 PM, July 30th (Sunday)]

Bad situation. If the girl really cared for you she would minimize the "the one night stand dick subject". But now she is bragging about the other guy's size and that is hurting you. It sounds then that she really wanted to hurt you. A girl who gets drugged and instantly jumps in bed with a guy you dislike. Doesn't care for you, or you must really done something to her what really hurted you and she took revenge. If i was you i would really reconsider the relationship. Don't go for surgery. You know mostwoman prefer an average penis size.

Hmmmmm. Where did our Sadguy go?

Hopefully the hardware store and the lumber yard.

Thanks for your advice guys I wasn't expecting as many people to respond. You right I need to find a person with a bit more self respect. Also she was lying about the guys piece she musta just googled how to hurt a mans ego.

Development!!

Holy shit!

The poor bastard got her pregnant.!

The poor bastard got her pregnant

I hope you are certain of that. Is there any way she can get you on the hook for it?

This "hung like a horse" guy is not the issue. The issue is that your GF chose to cheat.

Yep!

Does it matter that he can poke her pancreas? Geez, do a little research, if you want to get a woman off, all the nerve ending are within about of 1" of vag opening, and the most important sex organ is between her ears.

The latter may be in doubt with this chick.

Forget the stupid porn star stuff, she's got bigger problem.

Please say that you dumped her...and she's NOT living in your flat...PLEASE!

Who is more foolish?, the fool or the fool that follows her? - Kenobi

Strength brother, what are your current thoughts and feelings on this issue (i.e., her) now?

Seriously. Run. This woman is a drug abuser who fucks strangers when she hangs out with people who don't like you.

Please PLEASE listen to this!

You are young, you have a life to live, don't live it with such a person.

She doesn't love you and isn't remorseful if she tells you things like that. She is a sorry excuse for a human being. RUN RUN RUN away from that relationship!

Please get some counseling for yourself. And please understand that in a true love relationship size doesn't matter one bit. No woman who loved you would even think about it.

You know what most (emotionally healthy) women care about when it comes to love making (I use that word on purpose) they care about how they are treated, if they are loved, if the man wants to give and not just get. Size doesn't mean shit to a woman who is in love.

In fact, I have a very handsome fWH. In his 50s but built well, still has his hair on his head and although I've never compared him with another man, seems "well hung" to me.

But guess what, I would have taken a bald, less in-shape, less well hung man that DID NOT CHEAT over a strikingly handsome man any day!!! Give me balding, slightly pudgy but head over heels in love with me guy over the cheater! I bet 90% of the BS's on here would agree with that statement. Looks fade, people age, get fat...

None of that matters to me anymore. What matters is if I'm with someone who loves me, treat me well and doesn't cheat.

Run for your life 'aSadGuy' before she ruins it. Drop her like a rock and quick. Go no-contact and find yourself someone who can keep her legs closed. You're lucky that you weren't farther into the relationship and with kids. You've been given the opportunity to dodge a life ending bullet. Run!

Absolutely, I had an unfortunate injury as a kid and recently learned that it has made me completely infertile. Nothing gruesome however, essentially a vasectomy which I'm on a waiting list to fix an have the medical record to prove it to her. She had no idea before telling me that she was pregnant and that it was most likely by me.

I'm having paranoid visions of another reality where I may have never approached my dr out of curiosity and ended up being bundled with some other guys kid.

She's absolutely dumped! You folks have given me a great deal of great advice. I'm very greatful for your words and hope my fucked up tale has given you all as much of a laugh as I'm having now!

aHappyGuy!!!

aHappyGuy!!!

Internet high fives all around.

That was a spectacularly awesome ending.

I love it.

Sad Guy....I have to ask as there isn't many "happy endings" on this forum....tell us how it went down....we need the positive experience.

Good for you though!!

You still gotta protect yourself. She can get your name on the birth certificate. Yeah, ultimately there would be a paternity hearing and paternity test to clear you. But your a$$ would have been dragged through all sorts of happy horse shit before you are cleared.

Invest some $ now to talk to an attorney.

Honestly, she did you a favor by telling you. Imagine if she had kept this quiet...well until she showed up pregnant. Then there would've been a lot of questions. Count yourself lucky. Learn that someone that loves you would NEVER say the things she did if they really loved you.

I do understand the whole mojo thing. My fiance cheated with about 10 guys and man did I have difficulties after she told me. Lots of patience, lots of tears before I could go again without the mind movies (of her screaming in pleasure) screwing me up.

She had no idea before telling me that she was pregnant and that it was most likely by me

What was her reaction when she found out she was pregnant from the other man?

I have this vison of the Original Poster going all Keanu Reeves and bullet time, just like in The Matrix.

This infidelity tale brought to you by the Wachowski Brothers.

I'll buy the DVD.