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I saw an article about a show that I was starting to binge watch called Scorpion. When I do this I usually check out the actors and actresses on the show. Saw an article about actress Katherine McPhee. In it, she talks about an affair she had on her husband. She ended up losing her marriage. She stated in the article:

I don't have any regrets. All of the choices I made I learned from in a really deep way," McPhee told the magazine.

This blew my mind. How can you not regret hurting someone you love? Or use to love? What can you learn about yourself that makes you NOT regret having an affair? How can you save a marriage if the WS does not regret or have remorse? Well she divorced didn't she?

[This message edited by WilliamM at 1:25 PM, November 14th (Tuesday)]

Wow.

I've made a lot of mistakes in my life. I have learned a LOT from them. I am a better person today than I was in my 20s. But I still regret some decisions I made and things I handled badly. I regret being the source of someone else's pain.

I have nothing against her "learning in a really deep way", that's good. I worked through a lot of that in IC. I learned to not beat myself up over the mistakes I made. I learned to be proud of the person I became through the growth process. But not regretting the decision to do something that hurt someone? I don't get that either.

Narcissists never regret anything because the effects their actions have on other people mean nothing to them. They see the entire world as only how it affects them personally. We've all known narcissists. Some people are unlucky enough to be in relationships with them. I'm thankful I'm not one of those people.

I went to check out the article and found this abut her dating future. Thought it was a bit ironic.

"I'm a one-man kind of gal and a kind of true romantic at heart," she said.

I remember her saying that. How she sees herself and the truth just dont mesh.

It is best not to dwell on Hollywood celebrities and their proclivities.

Most of them are godless, narcissistic pagans.

The acting profession is a magnet for narcissists because it guarantees them an audience, which is what they crave most.

In some ways I have more respect for porn actors because at least they are honest about who they are. They aren't self-deluded like this idiot is.

[This message edited by LivingWithPain at 5:30 PM, November 14th (Tuesday)]

Yeah, I was going to say these are people for whom the world revolves around them. They spend their entire lives in a "look at me!" state.

I don't think you'll find many actors or entertainers that are truly remorseful about any of their transgressions. They just don't get it. It's all about THEIR needs, THEIR wants and desires.

It just reinforces my initial impulse that I didn't like her. I knew it!

How can you not regret hurting someone you love?

Because she's still only viewing life from how things impact her. Ego driven.

Morena Baccarin left her husband and got pregnant with her costar from Gotham. I really liked her up until I found that out.

WilliamM, I lived and worked in Hollywood for a few years in my 20s. I met a plethora of actors and actresses (including plenty of accomplished ones). Nothing about that article surprised me in the least.

In general, generalizations are unfair. However, for a lot of actors, actresses and 'theatre types,' there exists a desperate need for acceptance. Some of that is bound to be personal issues. The rest of it comes from the very nature of the business itself. I've seen the toll that an endless string of 'cattle calls' and rejections will do to people striving to make it in Hollywood. Having thick skin is paramount. With all the paparazzi, tabloids and shit like TMZ, some develop a profound level of detachment. They have to, in order to survive a truly brutal industry.

None of this, btw, excuses an unremorseful WS for the damage they cause. It just doesn't surprise me. Make sense?

I find it very disturbing that there are fans who hang on every word these actors say and take every recommendation the actors make. I believe these fans loose sight of the fact that these actors make a living by pretending they are something or someone they are not. The pretending to be someone they are not describes many wayward spouses if for only a little while.

I totally get it, unhinged. It makes perfect sense. That is a sad thing to say isn't it?

I'm not sure I'd describe it as making 'perfect sense,' because it's still fucked-up.

Wasn't the guy she had an affair with also married? If I remember correctly the BW and him decided to work it out.

I just saw this article:

http://www.intouchweekly.com/posts/brad-pitt-jennifer-aniston-146732

I can't even imagine what Jenn went through in such a public forum. I don't think I'd ever be able to talk to him again.

Well from what I have read, the Hollywood movie and television industry, as we know it, is dying on the vine, so these assholes may not be around for much longer.

Perhaps it was an exit affair and her intention was eventual divorce anyway.

Hollywood will endure. There's always another generation eagerly awaiting they're chance at stardom, and people love their stars.

Because celebrities live in their fantasy worlds every day. In my opinion their lives aren't anything like our lives. Often times this leaves them living very shallowly and selfishly. I'm happy to not have that life. Honestly I'm happy to not be rich. I'm happy to be living a real life world. Lots of celebrities aren't truly happy.