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Im still single after finding about my gf cheating with my friends and my mom knowing about it the ehole time while it was happening and never told me.(I posted on here earlier this year.)

For those that have been cheated on, how long did you stay single before dating again??

I have stil singl after year and half..im not in the place for new partner..3 man's whant to deit whit me after break up but im not interesting in them..i don't find attractin for anybody yet..my hearth was close i think

Hate life.

This is a hard thing to face b/c your family was involved. I have read your prior posts and it was heartbreaking to say the least.

You will always have your guard up regarding trusting people. That is the fall out.

I was cheated on with a few boyfriends. I learned to protect myself. Now I have a H who cheated twice. It ain’t pretty or fun to be an emotional wreck. Especially when you have to hide it from your kids.

But I now have emerged stronger and wiser and smarter but yet still feel sad occasionally. Infidelity hurts!!

You will know when you meet someone you want to invest in. Take it slow. Really get to know the person. Start out as friends or make it casual at first.

I dated a serial cheater. He took advantage of my niceness. It was a 6-9 month relationship and when I found out I just dumped him. I swore off men at that point. But then unexpectedly I met a nice guy and he was real and nice. Not a cheater or game player.

As far as your mom is concerned I don’t know how you deal with that. But I suspect you wil not trust her as fully in the future - especially with your girlfriends.

What is your mom’s explanation??

After I dumped my first serial cheater (my now ex-H), I started dating almost immediately. I had no emotions or respect for him at ALL by the time I left and was ready to start dating again and had a blast doing so.

Many yeas later, I booted out my second serial cheater, I started dating again within weeks. He'd been 'dating' others for the last year and a half of our relationship, so I wasn't about to sit in a dark corner and waste MORE of my time 'grieving' him after I'd already wasted 3 years of my life on him. He wasn't worth it.

[This message edited by NoMercy at 7:30 AM, December 16th (Saturday)]

Yeah so sorry you’re here. Lately, there has been a horde of men who find themselves in the exact same position as you

And all of them had a mom and a sister in on it, too!!

I suggest you barricade yourself in the house for awhile. There’s some kinda plague going around and you should lay low.

T/J read his first post from March.

[This message edited by Greeneyesbluezy at 6:34 PM, December 16th (Saturday)]

Greeneye. This is a recap

I had a lot of first dates starting within a few months of D-Day (we immediately separated.) Luckily none of those worked out as I needed to heal and I likely would have ended up with a partner as bad as or worse than my WXH. I do have a ton of funny stories from that part of my life now, though.

I met my current boyfriend of 2+ years around 4 years after D-Day and 3.5 years after official divorce, after an 8 month strict no dating period so I could work my stuff out.

He was worth the wait. I didn't even know a relationship could be so loving, functional, respectful, etc. We are both still pinching ourselves, madly in love, and the happiest we've ever been in our lives.

I know the same can be in store for you! There are a lot of really good, loving, faithful people out there. ("The Science of Happily Ever After" was a big help in me understanding what's important in a partner. Wish it had been written in 1998 and I would have avoided this entire fiasco!)