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Based on a different thread on phone bills, I went into ours and did my random check up. But then the OCD in me had to go back and recheck the old bills that I know the AP's number is there. I have nicknamed it "MOTHERFUCKER" in the phone bill and I searched for it and there it was. All over the place. They were texting each other daily basis up to when confronted and then suddenly it stopped after the NC text.

I'm so God damn enraged again! Why did I stay? Why am I reconciling? I should kick the shit out of her out of the house!

But has it really stopped? She says it has. But she has compulsively lied for 2.5 years so how the f should I know? What if she is using some other means other than text messages (iMessage) to keep in touch? The reality is she knows I now check the phone bills and the AP is an a-hole that didn't care that she was married so why should he care now?

A couple moths ago I gave her shit about having Whatsapp on her phone and why she needed it. She said she downloaded it a long time ago for a business meeting and she'd delete it if so I shall desire. But she didn't delete it.

In the phone bill there is lots of blank data transfers and I have no idea what they are. Do you guys know how to crack this? I need to know if they are still talking. If they are, I'M OUT!

I forgive once but that's it.

I researched and found a few apps such as:

mSpy

Flexispy

iKeymonitor

What's good? What works? What doesn't?

Also, I think now is a good time, because she has gotten more comfortable and could potentially make secrecy mistakes.

Any help would be appreciated. Thank you!

[This message edited by devastated43 at 4:54 PM, December 21st (Thursday)]

I used flexispy and it has MILLIONS of bugs. My H knew his phone was tapped, the next day I installed it. Fortunately, that short time was enough to catch him.

A strong word of caution. You should first completely research the wiretapping laws in your state. I know it sucks but People have gone to jail over it...

A lot of skirting around the law can happen if you just ask the partner to allow you to put it there.

With your kids its different, with a partner, they can actually file charges over it.

I agree now is a good time. But Im not sure about the apps, sorry.

I'm a friend to a former WS from 10 years back. She still goes to counseling every other week , has a womens support group at church she attends, still asks her husband if there is anything he needs from her to feel safe. She says it's a constant work in progress to keep her "thinking" on the right track, and to be honest in all of her dealings in her life.

I'm wondering if your wife is giving you all this. If not, IMHO, if not, I would D her. (My 1st H was an alcoholic and he went to AA for a while, then quit. I personally would have stayed if he was going to continue forever in his support group, but I knew sooner or later he would drink again as most drinkers and cheaters thought processes lead them to relapse.)

[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 5:15 AM, January 3rd (Wednesday)]

I can certainly sympathize with you as I am in the same boat.

I used mspy . it works much better if you can jailbreak the phone , otherwise all you get is a phone log and text messages .

I would suggest you avoid Flexispy at all costs, it looks like a scam. When I was researching spy apps, I found several Flexispy clones (different web site, different name, slight changes in user interface, but same shit under the hood), and bunch of fake review sites, where they "review" different spy apps, and 3 at the top are flexispy clones.

mSpy looks legit, didn't try it. Expensive.

I used Shadow Spy (for Android, not rooted). Bought yearly subscription, DDay2 happened several days after I installed it (I don't post this in "public" section of SI, "official" version is that I got recording of WW with AP3 from anonymous source).

Whatever you get, try it on your own phone first.

Android Lost works well - alot of options and it is free.

androidlost.com

As HartShot said, check the state laws - this app has several options including finding a lost phone, GPS but also getting search history, text messages word for word but also taping conversations.

i used flexispy and it worked great for me. my favorite feature is ambient . i can hear everything surrounding the phone thats how i found out about the burner phone he kept at work and his mothers house. the look on his face was priceless when i surprised him at his mothers house and the burner phone was laying next to him on the bed. he thought he was having a nightmare.