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moonofmylife (original poster new member #60447) posted at 7:15 PM on Monday, January 1st, 2018
Trepidation - are you still together? The lack of emotion and compassion are more hurtful than the cheating itself, imo. Does he have other narcissistic patterns, like isolating and controlling you, and gradually wearing down your self esteem? This is the hardest to overcome and I don't even know if it's possible.
Solus sto - how right you are about these issues in adolescence. The possessiveness, wanting it to just be him and I all the time, jealousy, grandiose plans for the future, intensity all seemed so romantic back then and I carried it with me believing it was normal for my entire adult life. Little did I know how dangerous it was because now that's my idea of love.
trepidation ( member #59133) posted at 12:30 AM on Tuesday, January 2nd, 2018
We are still together. The pros of staying outweigh the cons. A big issue for me alone is that I still hold out for hope. At this point I’d be more likely to find a fucking unicorn than have him change. So I guess I just need to change my expectations and how I react to him. Easier said than done when emotions of the heart are involved.
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