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Jesusismyanchor ( member #58708) posted at 9:10 PM on Tuesday, January 30th, 2018
Gently, cheaters are outright and liars by ommision. They deceive. Did he tell you he was doing these things? It is hard but usually the easiest/simple/common sense answer is the truth. Please look up terms like minimizing, gas lighting, blame shifting. They will explain things away in the most complicated ways when the truth is so obvious. They ustilize so many mentally abusive methods to do this and carry out their deceptions. He was already deceptive to even so the things he did.
I know my words are hard. I'm sorry. I know it is heartbreaking. The worse thing that can happen at this point is to not know the full truth.
Really, he expects you to believe that he sent pornographic images and she sent videos that 'he couldn't open'. Did he tell you about these things or did you find some of it?
ETA: masterbsting to her is physical
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stillwater (original poster new member #62407) posted at 7:46 AM on Wednesday, January 31st, 2018
I know just how you feel. I have tried the sexting and it does make me wonder if this is what he said to her. Also made me realise how much info can be relaid in a short time so it makes me wonder what else was discussed I am trying to het my husband to writr it all out as then I can absorb iy at my own pace when I am feelinh stronger an uphill battle though as he either says he can't remember or that he jas already told.
stillwater (original poster new member #62407) posted at 7:48 AM on Wednesday, January 31st, 2018
One good thing about the sexting is there was no actual sex so at least that is someone that remains special netween you and your wife
stillwater (original poster new member #62407) posted at 11:12 AM on Wednesday, January 31st, 2018
I know eactly how you feel.I see texts from him and wonder if this is what he said to her. I notice how long it takes to send texts and wonder how much info was exchanged in the couple of hours every day for almost a year. But you can not dwell on it it will just make you crazy. I have started to do positive stuff for myself, just small things like a walk pn the beach. It helps
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