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MidnightRun ( member #59434) posted at 3:02 AM on Wednesday, May 2nd, 2018
She's a sicko, and worse. Of course you know that. Swapping porn right under your nose, servicing your boss, calling you incompetent? Dump the lunatic asap.
Wittold ( member #53051) posted at 3:12 AM on Wednesday, May 2nd, 2018
Wow, first off, I'm sorry that you've found yourself in such a horrible marriage.
Second, you need to leave this toxicity in your rear view mirror. Seriously, get out and leave the abuser behind. You can do it, you ARE strong enough to do this, you AREN'T weak, don't listen to anything that she has said to you. She only says these things to make you lose self confidence so you'll settle and accept her ways. Don't.
BS (me) 50 WS 45 M 1990
DS1 25, DS2 22, DD 16
False D-Day 10/2015 I was sent a vid, but the quality wasn't good enough to prove. She denied, I believed.
D-Day 4/1/2016 (and I was stupid enough to at first think it was an elaborate April Fools
Lionshare ( member #45172) posted at 5:37 AM on Wednesday, May 2nd, 2018
She is so convincing - she is trying to make me feel that I "deserved" her cheating; that I have been such a horrible husband for the past 18 years that I have no room to be upset. She has said, "I've had to put up with 18 years of f***ing hell with you, and all you had to put up with is one year?
This says it all. Anytime you start to have second thoughts about the D, go back to this statement. There is literally nothing to be salvaged here. We talk of remorse, but this woman is not even sorry. On the contrary, with this statement she is taking all of the crap she's put you through and rubbing your face in it. She's proud of it, and laughing at you.
And one other thing....shock and awe. Detach from her completely and make no mention of the coming divorce. It needs to come as a surprise. Other than stuff for the kids, there is simply nothing that needs to be said to her.
Me: BH
Her: fWW
DDay: Feb 2014
Long term A
R is a long road.
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