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[This message edited by RockstarDad at 12:03 AM, May 9th (Wednesday)]

Didnt ask for remorse, looks like you need glasses. I laugh because i know where he is at but you don’t know where you are in life do you? Smh. I see why your wife left you.

[This message edited by RockstarDad at 12:03 AM, May 9th (Wednesday)]

It was her first post dude. Give her an inch of leeway.

Op- this is a shitty time for you. You are not a slut. You will not be alone. You will be ok. You made a bad choice some time ago but you are not a bad person. Your husband on the other hand...

Take from the experience as much as you can. You’ll have a baby soon and that is a beautiful gift!!! You’ll never love another more. Also, do checkout wayward side if ya haven’t. I’m new around here too but it seems they only throw pebbles. The pebbles ya need to get yourself in the right direction. Not boulders in hopes to crush whatever you’ve got left. I’m sorry you’re here. Hugs

If it helps you sleep better to believe that than hey. But i will sleep fine because you dont know me so i laugh at your comments because they are not about me, just who you imagine the person to be in my post. And your still commenting which shows you have the bigger problem so you should go help yourself to some prayer cuz last time i checked HE doesn’t condone the smiting of others. Thats HIS job. But nice try.

Thank you FoenixRising I definitely live and learn.

To simply put it, Karma is about reaping what you sow. You had an affair with a married man, married him and now he cheats on you. That's pretty much Karma.

It would serve you well to find a really, really good therapist to help you figure out why you make these self-centered, destructive, delusional choices and then live in denial that you've made them....as well as why you don't see the hypocrisy in your views.

Case in point...

because I do not speak the language of ignorant

Pretty sure you are in the position you are in due to ignorance.

cuz last time i checked HE doesn’t condone the smiting of others

Pretty sure He takes a pretty hard stance on infidelity as well.

First of all I think you should be posting in Waywards.

So here come the 2x4s

You cheated with the OM whilst married. You were the ow and he left his wife for you - the OW. You are a cheater and so is he.. and now you are surprised he cheated on you. Well I think it’s payback for what you did.

Karma? No you were stupid to think you were really that “special “.

Sorry but I have no sympathy for you..

I am constantly surprised that these OW are hurt when they are cheated on.. well this is what you did to another woman.... his wife..

now you have to deal with your consequences. If it was the Karma bus he would leave you for the younger newer model.

I accept my responsibilities in that which some of you misunderstand hence my topic title. But it doesnt change the fact we started a life a planned a child together. The innocent child doesn’t deserve it and all of the details of the whole situation are not told because theres no way I can post mine or his entire life story so everyone’s opinion is fine but judgement should not be the stance. I didnt ask for sympathy I asked for how to handle the situation no matter how it began or played out

And the next months, he wasnt himself. Arguments were back to back, weeks without speaking, divorce was in the talks. He told me he was unhappy, said its my attitude, stubborness, a lot of blame on me. Fire flew from me and he was feeling my wrath. I talked to his mom, my mom and finally she reasoned with me about he fact he was going through a lot. He was in a custody battle for his kids which I was actually paying for and finances had changed since child support started coming out only a few months earlier.

Why in the world would you choose to get pregnant with all that turmoil?

I didnt ask for sympathy I asked for how to handle the situation no matter how it began or played out

You accept that your marriage is over and concentrate on being a parent. Make sure you get proper rest and eat.

But it doesnt change the fact we started a life a planned a child together. The innocent child doesn’t deserve it

Then all you can do is hope this OW..is like you. That your child will feel comfortable enough to call her mom.

That will take family vacations and build happy family memories.

That OW will take good care of your child in their home.

I am not trying to be rude or mean or hateful. You wanted to know what to do. YOu do what his last wife did...you rebuild your life and hope that OW treats your child in the same the manner as you treated his chidren....because they were innocent and didnt ask for it either.

But it doesnt change the fact we started a life a planned a child together. The innocent child doesn’t deserve it

And neither did his 2 innocent children with his (then) WIFE.

As I said earlier, take care of your child and your pregnancy. Figure out why you chose a cheater, and why you chose to become a cheater.

It would probably be best for you to stay out of relationships while you do that. If you don't gain any understanding into why you chose such destructive behaviors then you are not a safe partner.

I didnt push him to leave her he did that on his own. I didnt ask for the kids to call me mom just as my son did on his own free will to call him dad. My sons dad has no concern of someone else being called dad just as i wouldnt if he called his step mom “mom”. I dont look at that as a problem like most. Not justifying my actions but their marriage had been over long before I came in the picture, I just seemed to be his ticket out. Their marriage was only a few years in and they did not have a wedding nor did anyone in his family accept their marriage so their issues stemmed before me. However we were happy for years up until march and i was already 2 months pregnant by then so I did not choose to get pregnant at a bad time, it happened and then bad times followed. Many of you may not agree and I am not the cheating spouse because I did not cheat, he did. Sure I became the other woman just as she had other men so its equal faults. As stated everyone is entitled to their opinion but all you know is what you are told.

Not justifying my actions but their marriage had been over long before I came in the picture, I just seemed to be his ticket out. Their marriage was only a few years in and they did not have a wedding nor did anyone in his family accept their marriage so their issues stemmed before me.

Kelsz, you won't make any progress until you own your choices. He was married, you had an affair. It was wrong. The fact that they didn't have a 'wedding' has nothing at all to do with the sanctity of their marriage.

[This message edited by northeasternarea at 10:44 AM, May 9th (Wednesday)]

Did you really just tell a BS on here that they deserve to be cheated on?

You have the wayward mindset, all right.

That was to a very negative person that as you can see has his comments deleted because he said some very nasty comments i will not repeat

Ive accepted my roll in this but it doesn’t make me any less human how it began and it doesn’t make my feelings any less than anyone elses.

I don't care what he said. He didn't cheat on anyone. You are a OW. You are complicit in cheating and devastating someone and putting them through the trauma of being a victim of your selfish choices. He is not.

Thats your opinion of whar you see

Kelsz, why are you here? What are you hoping to accomplish? Do you want butt pats and validation for your selfish actions or do you want people to be honest with you?

How did him not being to you work out for you? Maybe you are not used to honesty and people being honest with you.