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Congrats sczinger. Glad to hear that things are going better for you. There will be some down times but they will lessen over the years.

Why on earth would her parents think that you had anything to do with her? Even if she has cut them off, they know you are divorced. Don’t get stuck in the middle between them. Good going on no contact. Keep it up!

Wow. That was record time!!

You're going to ride the wave but it will also crash against the shore. The downside of having this happen so quickly is that you will grieve after the fact for a while. And that's okay. You're wife leaving you for another man (she's tried to sugarcoat/lie/blameshift this which is classic) is heartbreaking though. You loved and trusted her. And then she took a match and torched it.

When you hit a low, and if you are having trouble getting it together, there's no hard in seeking out professional support of antidepressants to get you on your feet.

You've handled this incredibly well but I worry that you may be in shock. Sorry if I sound like a Debbie Downer. ((()))

#BrokenheartedUK

I think I am definitely still in shock. It just seems like yesterday. Still asking myself how she could do this to me, but not as frequently. My biggest challenge is thinking she is going to come out of this devastation unscathed and with an even better life than she had before, and I, on the other hand, will be unhappy the rest of my life.

[This message edited by sczinger at 10:43 AM, July 13th (Friday)]

Update. I was thinking yesterday I not heard anything from her in over 4 months. I continue to be the poster boy for NC. Last night, just after midnight, I get an email in an old yahoo account I have not used in several years. It is from her. She simply says: "Hi". That's it. What a creature. My anxiety level stayed relatively normal. I almost chuckled a little. What a difference a few months can make. I obviously did not and will not respond. Still, wonder what the hell she is thinking...? Can I say hell on here?

New relationship isn't going all that well, she's fishing.

Crickets, but if you wanted to fuck with her and string her along, I wouldn't blame you.

New relationship isn't going all that well, she's fishing.

Yep. She's sending out feelers to see if she can line you up for Plan B.

Nip it in the bud with continued NC. That means crickets. Silence is not only golden, but it speaks volumes.

Does she even know that you saw the email? Hopefully it didn't send a read receipt.

I agree, continue to ignore her, move on with the D and into your future.

Does she even know that you saw the email? Hopefully it didn't send a read receipt.

I actually think it would be good if she knew he saw the message and intentionally 'cricketed' her.

If not, I expect her to try another avenue because in her warped head she is probably thinking "Maybe he never got my email, so I should try another way". I would expect her to cast her line out again to you but you keep doing what you are doing.

...After months of no contact, suddenly out of the blue I get an email from her. Just after midnight, about the time she would get home from her restaurant job... All it says is.."Hi." Really? Hi? I thought of a million different responses. Like, "You must be." or "Goodbye." My response of course was..nothing. Geez. Hi?

My response of course was..nothing.

You gave her the best response, congratulations!

...After months of no contact, suddenly out of the blue I get an email from her. Just after midnight, about the time she would get home from her restaurant job... All it says is.."Hi." Really? Hi? I thought of a million different responses. Like, "You must be." or "Goodbye." My response of course was..nothing. Geez. Hi?

My guess is that her new life imploded and she is both lonely and guilty. But, this is the path she has chosen. Stay strong.

I do hope you understand that her "list" of things that she doesn't like about you is a load of crap. My ex sent me a similar list, it was 6 pages long. Single spaced. In it he said some of the most bizarre yet untrue things (like claiming I failed autonomy 2X in college. I never failed).

My ex also wanted to have a more exciting life then being at home with the kids. The funny thing is that I've actually lead a more exciting life since then. I'm always at music festivals or hanging out with friends. I'm going to Costa Rica next year. Now you are free to do what you want to go.

Glad to hear you're staying 'no contact' sczinger. An other response will do nothing but bring you pain. I hope you continue to heal and your life continues to get better.

I too have a more exciting life than I formerly did with my ex HappyTree. I've been free for over 5 years now and am more successful and happier than ever.

Is this the same hi from 3 weeks ago? Or another hi?

Her scintillating repartee must make you want to engage. Pretty soon you will get how r u and lol.

Anyway, next time she reaches out in her eloquent way, may I suggest ayfkm followed by the immortal f u.

Sorry all. Looks like I posted that twice. Only one attempt to contact me...

I'm not divorced and kind of in R, just wandered into D/S...

The question - why didn't you block her? Or was that yahoo account the only place where she wasn't blocked yet?

Blocked her on phone, work email and aol account. This was a yahoo account I had not used in years... Blocked now.

Good for you sczinger. She's now just a person you used to know.

You will be happy again. It takes time but you'll find yourself and realize that you're better off now than you ever were when you were wrapped up in her. She's done you a favor. Make your life better and more exciting than it was. Take care of yourself.