First I want to say how sad, pathetic, disgusting, painful and unfair it is to have to a conversation with my wife who I have been faithful to for 27 years ( including dating ) concerning my feelings of sexual worthlessness because she fucked another man while married to me. This conversation should never have been required.
The results of the conversation were about as expected with an exception. Please note I told her all these questions and answers will be polygraphed. I think she was fairly honest in her answers because some of them were brutal and risked her self-interest.
The exception was that the AP could not orgasm without pulling out of her vagina or mouth and masturbating until completion. This led to him ejaculating all over my wife's body. She estimates she fucked him about 50 times on 40 days. He apparently figured out that she likes to swallow so he ejaculated the last 30 times in her mouth. Before the final 30 ejaculations he ejaculated all over her body including lower abdomen, stomach, breasts, mouth, and ass. He primarily ejaculated on her breasts because they are quite voluptuous.
They had intercourse in all the usual positions but mostly in cowgirl and doggy. I am not surprised he chose cowgirl and doggy style. These are the two positions where the man can best view her breasts and ass which are the most attractive parts of her body. These two positions are my favorite two positions with my wife. They are now commoditized. This makes me want to vomit.
They did all the usual sex acts except anal ( I never cared about anal. We have done it enough to know neither of us are into it ) and he did not give her oral. Receiving oral is her favorite sex act and the only way she can orgasm. ( Her second favorite sex act is not intercourse rather it is giving oral ) According to her she never orgasmed with him because he never gave her oral. I mostly believe he did not give her oral because she gave other brutal answers that hurt me and violated her self-interest such as ejaculating all over her body and addressing my concerns about penis size.
She did admit he had a larger penis than me. She said she considered me normal range and considered him large. This of course causes me significant pain and stress but I had prepared for it for a few weeks by reading many threads on Reddit containing thousands of comments from females on penis size. I also read many articles and research reports on penis size from the female point of view.
I asked her how a bigger penis felt inside of her. She told me it felt better on entering and for the first 60 seconds when it was inside but had no difference when in motion. I dont know if this is true or minimization. It could be true if her vagina accommodated after 60 seconds or it lubricated to the point of significant decrease in friction.
I read enough on Reddit to know that women have variable opinions on penis size ( this was actually new information to me. I had no idea how variable female opinion are on penis size).
I found a study that showed women who can orgasm from penetration care about penis size more than women who dont orgasm from penetration. My wife has never orgasmed from penetration. She told me there was no difference in getting fucked by my smaller penis versus his larger penis once the motion started. Additionally, she pointed out that her favorite vibrator is her smaller six inch toy not her larger rabbit vibrators. She also reminded me of conversations we had in the past about using smaller rather than larger vibrators. She said she only feels the first few inches of the toy pressing around her intritus ( vaginal opening ) and on the exact point the toy is touching on the vaginal wall within the first few inches of the intritus. She does not feel much past the first few inches of the vagina. Apparently this sensitivity pattern is not unique to her. Most of the nerve ending in the vagina are in the first few inches.
I dont know if she was minimizing the effect of his larger penis but I am glad I asked. It is painful and humiliating to know my wife fucked another man with a larger penis than me after 27 years of monogamy but that is reality now.
The most important question I asked was "Did you enjoy sex more with the AP or me?" She said without a doubt it was me. She said it was because she loved me, we had better chemistry, she trusted me completely and I gave her oral to orgasm every time. I generally believe this. She had a PA only ( no emotions ) with this man and previously told me she ended it because the relationship and sex got boring over time ( I posted previously on SI that she told me she ended it because the relationship and the sex got boring ). She got what she wanted from the affair and quit the affair.
The two most important questions for me were penis size and better sex. I lost one and won the other. I should never have to compete with another man inside my marriage.
My wife fucked another man and made me feel sexually worthless. It was incredibly disappointing we had to have this conversation because my wife betrayed me and fucked another man. The humiliation of having this conversation was approximately as bad as knowing the AP had a bigger penis than me.
[This message edited by MinnisotaManInWi at 9:10 PM, August 10th (Friday)]
