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The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 1:21 AM on Friday, November 9th, 2018
Cooley I agree. I don’t understand how grown ups just lose all common sense and do really stupid things. Like sending naked photos of themselves.
Especially if they are parents. What if it got back to their children - that cannot be undone. How do they think their kids will react? And their friends also.
Stupid stupid stupid!!!
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
Tyler1130 (original poster new member #67684) posted at 2:25 AM on Wednesday, November 21st, 2018
Counseling has led us to a psychological evaluation for my wayward wife. We will se where that gets us. Trying to focus on the positive. It’s hard. The question was asked how did my wife retire at age 35, she has worked the only job she ever had for 18 years, I make good money and we thought that would be the best choice for our family. She is fully aware of the potential consequences of her actions and how much she hurt me. I will leave her if she doesn’t show me with great effort that she is trying to fix this. She is trying but it still runs through my head over and over again. I am hopeful that we will get this figured out and make things work better in the future than it was before.
Buster123 ( member #65551) posted at 3:52 AM on Wednesday, November 21st, 2018
Have you exposed her A with All family and closed friends and with OBS if any (Other Betrayed Spouse)?, has she apologized to both your parents (if alive) for her huge betrayal ? have you demanded she gets tested for STDs (you should too)? yes she has been exposing you to potentially life threatening diseases and playing "russian roulette" with your health, do you have full on demand access to all her electronic devices ? Has she sent a firm NC FOREVER letter to OM (no sweet goodbyes)? If you haven't done the basics to survive infidelity you're just what we call here "rugsweeping" and all the MC in the world won't make much of a difference long term; has she had any real life consequences for her huge betrayal ? have you consulted an attorney to see what D looks like ? how did you find bout about the As ? did she confess or get caught ? the more info you give us about your situation the better and more accurate advice you will receive here.
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