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Not your circus, not your monkey.......Er.....not your dogs either for that matter.🎪🐒🐶

I didn't respond but it just blows my mind how you can talk and say things that she said to me and just easily turn around and ask for help like everything is ok again. I kinda knew she would but not the very next day lol

What she got was a notice to vacate. Only the court can evict a person.

Drop the dogs at a shelter????? They are innocent in this. They also react to being abandoned. If they are not adopted they could be put down. Try to rehome them. Advice like "drop the dogs at a shelter" is why I like dogs better than people. Can you keep the dogs? They won't betray you.

One guess, where those dogs would be if you hadn't changed the locks.

Please do not respond to her. They are her dogs, they are with her now and she will find someone to take care of them.

I didn't respond but it just blows my mind how you can talk and say things that she said to me and just easily turn around and ask for help like everything is ok again. I kinda knew she would but not the very next day lol

I don't want this to sound too harsh but you need to know how you sound to her right now. Your last text sounds like someone trying to guilt their WGF into taking them back.

It's ok to think these things but... were you to respond to this text by rubbing it in that you would have helped but she broke-up ... or that you are surprised she is contacting you for help since she told you she no longer wanted to see you or... all the things you are thinking. Don't do it. Basically, your responses only tell her that you are still obsessed with her and fine with being her plan B.

Has she set a date/time to meet you at Ford to trade in the car?

[This message edited by Freeme at 7:35 PM, December 12th (Wednesday)]

Tell his wife. Now. Right now. You have been repeatedly told that this woman and her child are AT GREAT RISK if she's unknowingly contracted an STD and gives birth.

She's not going to harm the car. She needs it for a trade in.

IF anyone damages your home, call the police. If they're the type to do something like that, they'll do it anyway.

The truth is, you don't want to tell his wife because you still want your cheating girlfriend back.

Stop sitting idly by and doing nothing. Tell his wife so she can protect herself and her baby. Stop helping your girlfriend's boyfriend cheat on his wife.

[This message edited by HellFire at 2:14 PM, December 12th (Wednesday)]

Not your job, she fired you.

She “hates” you only until she needs help.

She’s unreal!!!!

Has she set a date/time to meet you at Ford to trade in the car?

She called me Saturday to discuss getting her things again and the car. She told me she was gonna get the rest of her things this week sometime and would let me know, because she just cant live over there with her cousin anymore. The dog doesn't get a long with the cats and her cousins cats have broken a lot of her things. That and she said her cousin had to many guys coming over.

Then she said she talked to finance company and that they agreed that she could refinance it in her name. So she instead of going to Ford on Wednesday she was going to do that instead. She still has yet to get her license, and her credit is 520 so i am not sure if they will even refinance her but she assured me they told her that.

She went on to complain that her cousin ran up the cell phone bill she owes over $400 for that, the insurance she gotta pay now, the deposit for the new apartment, paying for that monthly, working all the time, people calling in that she gotta figure out, only seeing her kids once a week now because of her job and trying to get back on her feet. Just a whole bunch of shes struggling now and trying to make everything work but letting me know she is trying.

So sounds like reality is setting in to her so idk if she was telling me all of this to see if i would be dumb enough to say yeah ill help you out again or what, but she was sounding upset at the time talking about it all but so come Wednesday i should know if i can get this out of my name and in hers. Wednesday is her only day off so that is why it is that day.

I just thought it was funny though how she is complaining hard about money and everything she gotta do. She wont make it on her own, she will have to try another sugar daddy. She will get used and abused for whats in her pants and they will ditch her just as quick i believe. Its in her DNA, her whole family is a mess.

So sounds like reality is setting in to her so idk if she was telling me all of this to see if i would be dumb enough to say yeah ill help you out again or what, but she was sounding upset at the time talking about it all but so come Wednesday i should know if i can get this out of my name and in hers. Wednesday is her only day off so that is why it is that day.

My guess is that she is buying more time. She knows what buttons to push that will make you feel sorry for her and give her more time. She has been promising to move her stuff, get a drivers licence and remove your name from the title since she moved out. At this point she done none of that and might be out of housing soon. My guess is that she thinks her sugar daddy (OM)is going to help her out either cosign on the car loan or let her move in or... she is buying time until she can make something happen.

You need to set a date that you take the car back and quit giving her more time. You are putting your money, career and livelihood on the line for what? Some girl that will drop you in a second.

If she isn't able to refinance the car on Wednesday you need to take it. There is no reason she should have that car if she doesn't have a drivers licence or insurance.

Her: blah blah blah blah blah blah blah...

You: "You fired me. So I could care less about all of your problems. Just get your shit outta my house and me off your car-note as soon as possible. Tomorrow works for me"

[This message edited by Tron at 12:03 PM, December 17th (Monday)]

The only reason i am being lenient right now on time is because she is willing to take the loss of the vehicle rather then it coming out of my pocket if it back. But yes i will take it back if she doesn't get it taken care of by then.

She wont be moving in with the OM as he still lives with the wife and i highly doubt he will co-sign being it will show up on their credit and she would find out that way.

I know her owner is helping her out apparently gonna give her money she said to help with the deposit on the apartment. He owns like 6 establishments and is a womanizer with his money and charm. So she could be victim to him too who knows. I looked him up and apparently he beat a female for refusing to talk to him but he bought his way out of it including a rape charge. So i can foresee her falling to it and him buying to help and to get another one on his list. Im sure she'd go for it (sleeping with him for a favor).

[This message edited by 5pointoh at 12:02 PM, December 17th (Monday)]

i highly doubt he will co-sign being it will show up on their credit and she would find out that way.

You haven't told OBS yet ? if so do it ASAP, it's the right thing to do and she's potentially being exposed to STDs, plus wouldn't you want to know if you were in her shoes ? again I'm not sure if you did or didn't expose the A but if you haven't do it on Wednesday after she refinances the car, OM co-signs or you get the car back.

You haven't told OBS yet ? 

What are you waiting for? This makes you an accomplice in their affair.

The only reason i am being lenient right now on time is because she is willing to take the loss of the vehicle rather then it coming out of my pocket if it back. But yes i will take it back if she doesn't get it taken care of by then.

Do you have a plan in place to take the car if she does not get it signed over tomorrow? Does she know you plan to take it?

I'm just worried that saving those 3 - 4 thousand dollars are going to bite you in the ass if you wait much longer. She has no drivers licence or insurance and the cops seem to be out in full forces (year end quota?). The accident doesn't need to be her fault, with all the texting and driving and holiday madness. She is stressed and immature and impulsive I just think you are asking for trouble trying to "play nice" to save a few thousand dollars. And yes a few thousand is a lot of money but... not comparison to what you will lose if she gets a ticket or in a wreak.

I guess my bigger concern is that this doesn't have to do with the money at all. That it has to do with you wanting to be her plan B. You wanting to "save" her when she realized she can't do it alone.

You have so many great things going for you and your still young enough to find someone that appreciates you for being you and starting a family if that's what you want. ... You've got to move on from this girl, she isn't marriage material, you arn't going to save her and make her change into the ideal partner.

The writing on the wall. This girl is going to fail miserably at being on her own and call you to bail her out. You will take her back and work harder at being "attentive" but it won't be enough because she is broken. She will keep looking for a sugar daddy but will make sure she has things lined up better next time she leaves. You might get a few more years together but... it will end the same way, and be harder because you will be older and will have wasted so many years.

Please see her for who she is now and move on.

[This message edited by Freeme at 6:33 AM, December 18th (Tuesday)]

Then she said she talked to finance company and that they agreed that she could refinance it in her name. So she instead of going to Ford on Wednesday she was going to do that instead.

Just checking in to see if this was done or if it was a delay tacit. Hope that you remove the car from her possession until she is able to get your name off of it.

Really great post from Falc that you might want to check out.

https://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=634298

For the past two weeks i have been watching a lot of videos on youtube about Narcissistic behavior of ex's and NPD. I never knew that this behavior was so broad and encompassed a lot of different behaviors from someone, evil to say the least.

Everything started to click and make more sense of why the sudden discard, playing victim, blocking me on everything, and ignoring my texts when it came to my feelings for her and any type of closure.

With everyone that has read my story on this post so far and all the updates i have given, do you all believe that she really is a Narcissistic person or maybe has NPD?

I still am finding it hard for me to believe to accept this reality of that is what she really is because its pretty sad, since its been told that is always who they will be. They will go from one "Supply" to the next. Now she is love bombing her rich boss that owns 6 other restraunts and he even has a gf and women always after him. She is chasing him now from what ive seen and he of course is stringing her along for the ride.

It is all just crazy to me.

Almost none of us here are able to make that diagnosis.

In most affairs, the WS is extremely narcissistic.

Some come back from it. The ones that finally see how wrong they are.

Most affairs are pure narcissism. It's all about them during that time.