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EvenKeel ( member #24210) posted at 1:53 PM on Friday, February 1st, 2019
This morning I checked her cell phone records and found that she has in fact still been in contact with her AP. Everything she has told me has been a lie.
WTH - I am so sorry.
All of this totally sucks but you have been given some information that many of us take years to find out. You found out very quickly that she is gaslighting and lying to you and the A was exposed to the world (thanks to him plus FB). Both of these things are gifts (EVEN THOUGH THEY FEEL THE EXACT OPPOSITE RIGHT NOW).
I found that sometimes when I am on an uncertain path, the world gives me validation of which way to go (or confirmation I am on the right path)....You have definitely been given mega info to guide you.
LivingWithPain ( member #60578) posted at 3:00 PM on Friday, February 1st, 2019
Joecardinal I'm sorry you confirmed what your gut was telling you. Always trust your gut. If something doesn't feel right it usually isn't.
I'll tell you from experience that the only thing that breaks a cheater out from his/her affair fog is plopping that signed and stamped divorce petition down on the table in front of them. It was the only thing that worked for my fWW.
Take care of yourself from this point on. Turn over all to your lawyer and let him get the ball rolling. Don't ask for input from your WW anymore. Stop telling her what you are doing or what you will do. She's the enemy and she does not have your interests at heart anymore.
Me - 39; WW - 36
Married 13 years
1 Adopted Son age 18
Still married and living together: attempting to reconcile.
VinST ( member #61493) posted at 5:35 PM on Friday, February 1st, 2019
Time to man-up and kick her out! she has been at it for 2 years now...
you are not a doormat. don't play the pick me dance. I found it rather strange that you would have even believed one word she said...
Dont let her dupe you again. It will hurt but you will survive and move on!
onthefence123 ( member #66156) posted at 5:55 PM on Friday, February 1st, 2019
(((joecardinals)))
I wonder if the OM hasn't "gone crazy" per se, rather he has actually been led to believe by your WW that you are out of the picture...? It just seems strange that he would post FB pictures and would publicly declare his love for your WW if he thought it would piss her off? Well, if she is leading him to believe that you are out, then he now has a right to show his affection and be with her (in his mind).
Bigheart2018 ( member #63544) posted at 3:37 PM on Thursday, February 7th, 2019
How did you wife explain the additional contact with her AP?
Marz ( member #60895) posted at 4:34 AM on Friday, February 8th, 2019
The affair never stopped. All cheaters lie like hell. It was also sexual as you'll find out if you dig further.
What are your plans now?
You can't make her not stray. Get out of infidelity so you don't get damaged further.
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