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Randomly pick up WW's phone. 1 message sent at 3:30 this morning to another guy. 1 message.Literally sent while I was walking out the door to go to work. Meaning others were deleted because without other messages this one made no sense.

Gonna be a long night.

I am so very sorry - I know how it feels. Prayers for strength.

What's your plan?

I'm sorry about your situation, your WW seems to be a SERIAL CHEATER, I mean you just discovered her first A a few weeks ago with a potential child molester and she's already talking to another OM behind your back ? oh hell no, could she have been in contact with both OMs at the same time ? not that it matters much but wow, I agree it's going to be a very long night and rightly so, whatever you do don't leave the house, if someone needs to leave it's her, consult an attorney ASAP.

I am so sorry. I’m on round 2 myself. What is wrong with people?! Are you going to look for more evidence or confront?

Sending you strength..

At this moment, I do not have one simply because it was a huge kick in the balls. I can't head out because the kids would be left here when she goes to work. I saw the message and asked who it was (sarcastically) and she started to give me an explanation but that ship has sailed. I am literally shaking right now.

On top of that, my damned VAR won't sync to my PC at the moment so I don't even know if there was anything to hear today without sitting there with headphones on or playing it aloud. Part of me wants to go Hiroshima but instead I started washing bedding for the guest room to where I shall retire for the evening (my choice). She can have the master bedroom. I hate it anyway.

I guess I will call my union legal department tomorrow and start the D paperwork. Maybe have her served and see if that changes her attitude. Just curious, does anyone know if Dr. Fone will work without her password if the phone itself is not password protected?

Like I said in your recent thread in General, the time to serve her with divorce papers is now.

Looks that way Firenze.

DAMMIT and she sent it thru imessage so it isn't showing up on the phone record.

Did you get the phone number of who she text?

Does the name she gave you match the number?

Did you check the call log for the number?

What was the text she sent?

The text was innocuous. The problem is she deleted whatever thread it was attached to so it does not make sense without the thread. This is a person who never deletes a thread. EVER.

She didn't give me a name. I saw it in the phone at the top of the message header.

Nothing in the call log but I am betting she just uses facetime.

So you saw the phone number or name, right?

Yes. At least what WW has him under in the phone. She is in full on defense mode now but has zero reason for having deleted the messages.

Nothisdoormat I already confronted. I had had enough. Enough lies, enough TT, enough feeling that things were going to get better but deep down knowing they aren't.

Gonna go to bed. Thanks for being here. If you are of the praying sort, please pray for guidance for me. 'Night.

Ok. So she won’t have a problem with you looking at the number attach to the name then. If she didn’t already change the contact info.

Grab her phone and call the number. Her actions don’t match with someone having a EA with OM that’s far away.

You better up your CIA game. I suggest that get her text restored through a security app or just take it to a specialist. For a couple hundred bucks, you should be able to get a tech to get the goods.

She's in full on defense mode. Guys is a short term BF from when she was in high school (does this story sound familiar to anyone?) I kid you not.

I'm sorry you joined the Dday2 club. It's total bull____. I don't have much to add except shake to get that energy out, get mad, let her know it, and make yourself PLAN A right now and let the chips fall as they may.

Happenedtome2

I am not sure your full initial story & dday 1, but my WH had a EA & PA with an ex from high school (who the woman is also friends with my SIL) & it has taken us down a very horrible, slippery slope. All of my ddays had to do with the same OW, so I dont have experience if she is doing this with multiple men, but I just wanted to say I am sorry & I can relate.

You know, man, this sucks.

But...

Not so much to make you done evidently.

If you were done, you would file for divorce because you were done, as opposed to doing it to provoke a reaction.