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Dad said my wife needed to apologize for being a temptress when she knew he was vulnerable because he flunked out of college and the past 6 years have been “very hard for him figuring out what he’s going to do with his life.”

See more than one lawyer. Get opinions from at least 3. You have to pick the one that suits you best. Is knowledge in paternity responsibilities.

Your only responsibility now is to yourself. Frankly, go tell your family to F... OFF. Worried about the family name more then there son when they hid all this the entire time. Prayer out to you my friend.

Denny, there's no gentle way to say this, but it needs to be said all the same.

Your wife is trash. Your family is trash.

Do what's best for you and you alone. Forget about them.

File for D first thing in the morning, tell your attorney she's hiding money from you, make sure you put a block in your credit so that she can't open credit cards in your name and sent to a new address, get a VAR or record every interaction with her at all times, the way she's acting suggests she's capable of filing false DV charges on you. Don't worry about what your family says, get tested for STDs, file and don't look back !!!.

I am so sorry. What a huge betrayal from everyone. I agree to tell your family to fuck off. They are part of the problem. This is all on your CW and your brother. I can't believe he would do that to you!

Glad you are changing your bank accounts and seeing an attorney asap. Hopefully, you can recover the money she stole.

I don't want to sound too callous, but I hope the child is not yours. Then, you can cut them all off. BTW, it's highly unlikely that any emotional stress she is under, which is not your fault, would cause her to miscarry. Don't accept her putting that shit on you.

In western culture lot of people do not get/ignore elders opinion when marry. Elders have more life experience which cannot be substituted by IQ or education

BS ONLY

[This message edited by SI Staff at 3:51 PM, April 17th (Wednesday)]

This has been the day from hell.. wife started threatening to call cops on me and say I hit her if I see an attorney tomorrow. I pulled out my phone to start recording and that shut her up. On my way to check into a hotel for the night

Did you confront your so called brother or at least did he have any decency left to contact you and analogize to you and the family for risking their reputation in this small town

Very smart to stay in a hotel. Definitely tell the attorney she’s threatening to lie about you hitting her too. Get his advice on what you should do. I would stay as far away from her as you possibly can. Do you have any interest whatsoever in trying to work things out with her? Honestly, she sounds like a total psycho and I hope you get far far away from her and stay away. What an evil, devious bitch!!!

Forgot to ask, how did you find out?

Oops double post

[This message edited by Justgettingbye at 9:59 PM, April 10th (Wednesday)]

Goalong, you’re not suggesting that he should listen to his family “elders” because they have more experience than him, right? That would be absolutely ludicrous.

She had a track phone I didn’t know about, found it in the glove compartment of her car by accident. The only number in it was his and filled with texts planning their next meet up

Denny,

I'm sorry you are here, and sorry that your family is so screwed up.

You say that you live in a small town. If you can, try to "conflict out" the good divorce attorneys in your area by meeting with them tomorrow. Of course, you'll only hire the best one.

And 180 your wife and family. I hope the kid is your brother's so that you can detach cleanly and just move away.

Best of luck.

My family just ambushed me at my house. Wife must have called my brother and told him I’m seeing a lawyer tomorrow. They all came over and my parents say I can’t do this, it would be too embarrassing for the family. We live in a small town so word will get out fast. I say who cares? Turns out my parents have known for a year and never said anything. Dad made my wife apologize to my brother and says I need to man up and deal with it because my brother is trying to get into the union and can’t give that up or afford to take care of a kid even if it’s his, and why would I want to cause the child problems by telling him if I’m not his dad. Says it’s my wife and my responsibility. I can’t believe this sh*t

Stop being your worst enemy. You don't tell your low life wife anything. And FUCK your family. They don't give a shit about you.

Wake up buddy or you'll pay big time. Even worse than you've gotten now later

This has been the day from hell.. wife started threatening to call cops on me and say I hit her if I see an attorney tomorrow. I pulled out my phone to start recording and that shut her up. On my way to check into a hotel for the night

Wow I knew it and told you she was capable of this, fortunately you were prepared and started recording it (she wasn't counting on this). Very smart move to check into a hotel, just file for D tomorrow, don't second guess this, she's gone and is now the enemy, stay in the hotel for now until you file for D, an Airbnb may be cheaper if you feel you're running out of money or maybe stay with a trusted friend.

Yoe, DV's get filed in these situations so you'd better protect yourself.

The worse thing you're doing at this time is talking. You are giving her your plans. Stop !!!!!!

I agree with Marz 100%, stop talking to her and don't telegraph your moves.

I’m going to be staying with my buddy after tonight so she will not be able to snoop on my phone calls and research what I am doing to protect myself going forward