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This post should be referenced whenever someone says they contacted the OBS by Facebook, email, Instagram, etc. and not directly. People always say on here that you may have actually gotten the AP and here is an example of that very thing. She blocked you for him which will not help her at all. You might want to direct the OBS here if he needs a place to talk and then I think both you and your WH should stay out of these people's lives.

I just don't understand what WSs think is going to happen regarding any physical contact or any sort of revenge. Just because physical harm, damage to property, trespassing, etc. are against the law and morally wrong does not prevent anything. Where in history have these things ever stopped anyone?

The POSOW's BH is a marksman. WTF?!?! WH knew prior to fucking her and he still thought this was a bright idea?!??

HELLO!! W DIPSHITS!! YOU DO NOT KNOW ANY OF THESE PEOPLE!! No one has any clue how someone will react on DDay, it's crazy making. Story after story on here and in the news and social media about suicides, murders, stalking, ripping careers apart, damaging vehicles, smearing reputations, you name it. I just can't get over the stupidity of putting yourself into a situation of such risk and how pathetic it all was, for sex and words.

...if there is anything that is hard to face, it's how stupid my intelligent WH was.

[This message edited by onthefence123 at 4:58 PM, May 17th (Friday)]

Onthefence123 I couldn’t agree with you more and to be honest- this has been one of the most difficult parts for me.

That he thought of all those implications work,family,physical harm,damage to other relationships (mother etc), social standing in community etc and STILL decided to do it.

UPDATE: OBS (offshore) asked his brother in law to contact me to get info (since he is away)

He called me tonight.

I’m absolutely flawed. Other woman is a piece of work indeed.

Yip.

She denied denied denied.

Then they used FACTS that I had supplied.

Hectic facts that couldn’t be made up (I would have no way of knowing) unless it were true

Then she said (wait for it)

He forced himself on her- In essence raped her.

Then they proved that wrong and then she picked up a coffee table and threw it at him (her brother In law) and smashed glasses on wall across the room.

Then went outside and screaming and shouting picked up outdoor furniture and threw it in the pool. And against her daughters bedroom window

Ahhhh- I see THIS is why SI suggests telling the OBS

A little happy her life is upside down. Is that bad?

PS: my husband threw up when I told him she said he raped her/it wasn’t consensual.

🙈

I wonder how she plans to explain her blocking you on FB. “Ummm the wife of my rapist was trying to contact you so I deleted her message and blocked her - isn’t that what all rape victims do?”

Sassylee it’s classic. She also said she lost/someone stole her phone around that time and it was them messaging him

(Photos of her breasts and intimate details about her and her husband and family etc no one else would know)

[This message edited by Kudulies at 1:43 PM, May 18th (Saturday)]

Then went outside and screaming and shouting picked up outdoor furniture and threw it in the pool. And against her daughters bedroom window

Then she said (wait for it) He forced himself on her- In essence raped her.

A little happy her life is upside down. Is that bad?

Nope.

But say a prayer for her husband. He married a lunatic.

And, for all the time she has spent lying, she's not very good at it!!

(((Kudulies)))

Ah Ha!! Her anger proves the guilt! An innocent person would be perplexed, shocked and doing anything to prove no way, no how! A guilty person becomes infuriated that they have no out.

I'm living proof. I've seen flying objects and heard the screaming and yelling.

Stay strong friend.

Kudulies first off, thank you for doing the right thing. That is so difficult.

PS: my husband threw up when I told him she said he raped her/it wasn’t consensual. 

Forgive me, but I'm lying in bed at 3:42am trying not to laugh.

Who knew that a cheater would say anything to cover their own ass?

You are a rock star!

Apparently this woman has done this a few times before and her husband has forgiven her/looked the other way.

I fear that this is what will happen this time. She seems to always get away with it.

He sent me a message last night saying...

“I'm sure we will make it though this. There are kids involved and we have been speaking.”

Apparently this woman has done this a few times before and her husband has forgiven her/looked the other way.

I fear that this is what will happen this time. She seems to always get away with it.

This is none of your concern as long as it doesn't happen again with your CH.

The POSOW's BH is a marksman. WTF?!?! WH knew prior to fucking her and he still thought this was a bright idea?!??

My fch knew the OBS was a police officer with a temper. He obviously had a gun. He also knew that he could be criminally prosecuted under the USMCJ for adultery. He still did it. Stupid, indeed!

If the OBS decides to rugsweep, that's not your problem. Hopefully it will at least protect you in that she will move on to some other AP, not your WH.

Your WH's reaction to the lie about the rape/assault is interesting. It shows he never considered that possibility. Which should be a little scary. More evidence of how selfish waywards can be and not really considering the repercussions, or not caring.

Yup. He definitely never ever considered that she would ever recoil and say he raped her. Just ANOTHER annoyance for me.

I sent my WH a message today saying.

I can’t believe you trusted an absolute stranger with so much.

You put ALL our lives in her hands. She's obviously a lunatic.

Seriously unstable and has many MANY issues you were happy to look past just for SEX

Is it wrong I'm still laughing at APs temper tantrum?

I'm just imagining her losing her s**t and throwing things at people, breaking glass, hurling objects in the pool while lie after lie is being debunked.

Yup - still laughing.

OBS life in OBS hands [and he sure as heck has them full doesn't he].

@Chaos the husband and brother in law tried to tell her- this information is coming from HIS WIFE- what could she benefit from making this up!

I have a little joy knowing SHE knows I contacted HER husband and didn’t just lie down and cry.

Ps- one of her other things was “how could she have had anal sex with him since she previously had Haemeroid op.

Really. She has tried everything to deny deny deny.

Kudulies,

first:

I must say love the name lol.

secondly:

please please be careful...after all she is a lunatic, bat s**t crazy in IMO,

She now knows it was you that told her BS,

you done what you needed to do (very understandable)

I just hope you have no fallout from your revelation,

how does your WH feel knowing he wasn't her first AP?

that he wasn't so special after all!!

He knew when he got involved there that he wasn’t her first affair. That she “does this”

But he said he was only there for the sex he said he was in no way interested in her as a person.

Just the sex.

Don’t think he ever thought she was such a loon though and obviously NEVER thought she’d claim rape.

I agree with hellfire on page 1 though I wouldn't want to see OBS get in trouble. I also don't want to see WH necessarily get hurt except for the fact that he hurt some other guy very badly. OBS seems weak as he is or seems co-dependent. OW is a POS and now that she's been exposed, her reaction is one of a pathetic human being. However, if I was OP, give the OBS everything he needs evidence wise and then watch your back from OW's reaction.

Hopefully OBS dumps her ass this time

Apparently this woman has done this a few times before and her husband has forgiven her/looked the other way.

I fear that this is what will happen this time. She seems to always get away with it.

He sent me a message last night saying...

“I'm sure we will make it though this. There are kids involved and we have been speaking.”

Well if the OBS is that weak and allows his WW to walk all over him repeatedly, I can pretty much guarantee he's not the kind of man who would come after your WH. You probably have nothing to worry about.

Livingwithpain makes a great point and sounds rational. However, I see more and more guys who are very weak at home but very strong in public or aggressive against others. They are odd