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I am trying my best.

I don't know if you have seen this obscure movie series that was set in space, and had this little green fella who said, 'There is no try, only do'.

I started IC right after D-day. I go to the gym after work on weekdays. I do breathing exercises and even made lists of the horrible things she has said and done to read to myself when I miss her.

Good. Get into the anger stage, but once you get to Anger-ville, don't stay there for too long.

I just can't seem to stop longing for her. I'm 2 months in so hopefully as more time passes I will accept being single and that this actually happened.

It's okay, I too a few years when my ex-fiancee cheated. Stayed single, which made a few people think that I started batting for the other team!

Am now married to an amazing woman, who has enriched my life to no end. We have travelled far a w wide, and been to places where few others have gone. I find that I appreciate the trips as I get older, as when I was younger, all I wanted to do when travelling, was to brag to others that I had gone to an exotic country, and not really appreciating the country itself.

That she actually did this to me.

Yup, she did, and dooooooon't you forget it!

There are a lot of things worse than being alone. Like being in a relationship with a cheater that doesn't respect you.

This is what I try and remind myself. I am in a lot of pain but she crossed a line and kept going. I have morals and she broke them. Regardless of how badly I miss and love her, I shouldn't allow myself to be subjected to her emotional abuse and blatant disrespect.

We're here for you, even though you don't know us. A common enemy makes a strong friendship.

Thank you. Having support from others on SI who actually understand the pain of betrayal and infidelity helps. Friends and family mean well but they don't understand the physical and emotional pain we feel. Experiencing infidelity is a traumatic experience. I feel like people on the outside tend to downplay how seriously we are affected by it.

Am now married to an amazing woman, who has enriched my life to no end.

That is so amazing and I am really happy for you. I hope everyone here on SI who has been betrayed finds a partner that deserves them and loves them and stays faithful. I hope I do too. I also hope it doesn't take years and years.

Thank you for the support everyone.

I hope I do too. I also hope it doesn't take years and years.

You will.

Just take your time and don't rush things. Don't feel the 'need' to be married by a certain time, because then you are forcing yourself to do something that you may not be ready for, or really want to do.

Find peace and happiness within yourself first. Once you become confident in yourself, things will start falling in place.

[This message edited by RocketRaccoon at 9:27 PM, October 14th (Monday)]