Or maybe instead of playing games, waiting to see who initiates, maybe talk to your partner about what's going on?
I don't think either men or women are constantly on for sex 24/7, and there are a number of reasons for that. For women, yes, periods, pregnancy, menopause, can affect our drives physically. For men, erectile dysfunction can have an affect.
For me, I felt my WH had lost his interest in me. I asked many times why he never had interest in sex. Why he didn't really seem excited physically when I initiated. Asked if there was somebody else. I felt that he lost interest despite my efforts and eventually I gave up.
Apparently, he felt the same away about me (though his extra curricular activities likely didn't help his drive for me).
So we both were under the impression the other didn't want it, and that could have changed had we actually had a serious conversation about it, instead of getting to the point of complacency with our situation.
Playing stupid who will initiate first games is never the answer.
[This message edited by landclark at 12:44 PM, November 18th (Monday)]
Me: BW Him: WH (GuiltAndShame) Dday 05/19/19 TT through AugustOne child together, 3 stepchildrenTogether 13.5 years, married 12.5
First EA 4 months into marriage. Last ended 05/19/19. *ETA, contd an ea after dday for 2 yrs.
