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MariaBlue ( new member #63695) posted at 8:10 PM on Wednesday, January 1st, 2020
I am so sorry you are here. You are going through the most soul-crushing, traumatizing experience and it’s okay to do what you have to do, even it is just lying in bed. You have to let yourself process the full range of emotions.
Your husband has shown you who he really is. Believe him. He is obviously very selfish and only thinks of himself and his needs. This wasn’t all about you at all. Just him.
Please take care of you and only you. This is the time to truly put your needs first.
You will get through this. In time you will see that this was a pivotal time in your life and necessary for your personal growth — it just won’t feel like that now. Good thing you don’t have children with him. You can break free. Take time for yourself. Heal you.
DDay of EA: April 28, 2018
DD2: 09/24/2018 WS broke NC to officially end it
DD3: 6/29/2019 WS broke NC again to hear nice words instead of my angry outbursts; he got ghosted instead.
WS: Working on becoming a safe and trustworthy partner.
ohsospecial ( member #72054) posted at 9:47 PM on Thursday, January 2nd, 2020
What a hurtful place to be; I am so sorry.
You are young; there IS time for a family. And ask yourself: is this the man you would want to father your children? What kind of example would he set for a son? Or for a daughter? And would you truly want your children to see you tolerate the way he treats you?
Please take the lead; see a lawyer, find out what D would look like financially, then make a plan to leave him in the rear view mirror.
And I hope your new job gives you the opportunity to shine!
https://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=642616
Tallgirl ( member #64088) posted at 5:00 PM on Friday, January 3rd, 2020
Someone said to me recently, that the worst thing about cheating was the pain of losing the future that they always assumed would be there. Something to think about.
I think this is true.
It's kinda like a tube of tooth paste, once you squeeze it, you can't put the tooth paste back in, and you have to move forward knowing that the tube can never be the same.
I'm going to use baking soda, at least it comes in a box. 
[This message edited by Tallgirl at 11:01 AM, January 3rd (Friday)]
survrus ( member #67698) posted at 12:34 AM on Saturday, January 4th, 2020
HeartInTwo,
Be glad you found out now, not 10 or 20 years from now or when you had children.
See escorts is apparently addictive and men secretly spend small fortunes over time doing so. My sister in laws husband used to, still does?, go to houses of prostitution and she now in her 60s has pre-cancerous cells in her throat likely from HPV from him.
I also can't imagine anyone having a good life married to a woman who sold her body for money. I suspect the escort will cheat on him.
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