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Cooley2here ( member #62939) posted at 5:05 PM on Tuesday, January 21st, 2020
Everyone on here has been cheated on. Some of us(me) suspected for years before confronting. It was done out of town and I have no idea how many times. By the time I confronted there were no more out of town trips. We moved on. But it’s there. I have an h who cheated. Can’t change that.
You have a fiancé who has made you Plan B. Either she didn’t live up to his expectations or she dumped him. Do not be someone’s option. Be someone’s first choice.
When things go wrong, don’t go with them. Elvis
Jej188 ( new member #72595) posted at 7:47 PM on Tuesday, January 21st, 2020
We make ourselves believe what we want to, even if its wrong and the world is telling us its wrong. I just found out a few days about about my wife cheating and I am devastated. I made myself believe her lies because I couldn't bring myself to confront the truths. People on this forum give really good advice and many have been in your shoes. Listen to them and don't feel like your worries are invalid when it comes to your fiance.
Muurblommetjie (original poster new member #72614) posted at 7:46 AM on Friday, January 24th, 2020
Thank you all for the advice, hard as it is to hear. I am bearly keeping it together, I feel so tired and drained. We are in the process of getting out of our leases but it will probably only be possible at the end of February. He is assuming that we are trying to R. A huge part of me wants to R. I love him. I mean if I didn't love him I wouldn't be this shattered would I? But I also don't know if I can ever trust him again.
I did tell him that the engagement was of.
I just wish this overwhelming sadness would leave me. I need to angry.
Cooley2here ( member #62939) posted at 2:39 PM on Friday, January 24th, 2020
You are wobbling between shock and bargaining within the stages of grief. It’s hard to believe a person you love could be this horrible. You want so badly for it not to be true. Sadly, it is. His friend has a double betrayal. Think about it. Your fiancé cheated on two people who trusted him. He is not good husband material at all.
Dry your tears and try to be thankful you found out about his true nature before you married him.
There are no excuses for what he did.
When things go wrong, don’t go with them. Elvis
dblackstar2002 ( member #70704) posted at 2:46 PM on Friday, January 24th, 2020
I truly believe( And this is just my opinion) There are only two reasons you stay in contact with an ex. You never loved them, Or you are still in love with them. This is why when I date a woman, And I find out she is still in contact with an ex and they don't have kids together, I bail and bail hard!!!! 
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