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Lifeexploded (original poster member #51196) posted at 2:51 PM on Saturday, January 25th, 2020
Is there any way to retrieve deleted text messages from an iphone without knowing the password? I can get into the phone but I don't know the password for the apple id. It's a work phone (non government; small business).
Married for 19.5 years to a sex addict. Filed for divorce 4/15/2020. Freedom July 22, 2020!
gmc94 ( member #62810) posted at 9:01 PM on Saturday, February 8th, 2020
I don't think you need the icloud password for fonelab.
I'm told some people get lucky - but fonelab (paid version) didn't find any deleted messages for me :(
I think it all just depends on the phone's use of space and the time since the messages were deleted.
M >25yrs/grown kids
DD1 1994 ONS prostitute
DD2 2018 exGF1 10+yrEA & 10yrPA... + exGF2 EA forever & "made out" 2017
9/18 WH hung himself- died but revived
It's rude to say "I love you" with a mouthful of lies
Somber ( member #66544) posted at 8:24 PM on Sunday, February 9th, 2020
I had moderate luck with fonelab the first time I tried it. The second time I had no data recovery. I did not use the paid version. I did not need any passwords either.
Me: BS, 41 / Him: SAWH, 43
2 children ages 7 and 9
“The truth is still blurry but the lies are getting clearer”
Lifeexploded (original poster member #51196) posted at 2:25 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2020
Do either of you recall how long it took? SAWH takes a long run on the weekends and he is gone about 1.5 hours.
Married for 19.5 years to a sex addict. Filed for divorce 4/15/2020. Freedom July 22, 2020!
Somber ( member #66544) posted at 1:35 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2020
About 30 minutes but the retrieved texts started appearing at about 10 minutes...they weren’t always matched with a name or number...lots showed up as unknown number. It would have the date though and there would be large gaps in the dates. So it doesn’t retrieve it all.
It wasn’t 100% but it did give me something to go on...
Me: BS, 41 / Him: SAWH, 43
2 children ages 7 and 9
“The truth is still blurry but the lies are getting clearer”
Somber ( member #66544) posted at 1:39 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2020
I screened shot suspicious ones as they showed up. As soon as you unplug his cell phone from the laptop it all disappears. There is a way to save them if you purchase it...I just did the free version as a trial. You can save pictures of evidence in your notes on your cell phone and delete them from the camera roll...or send them to an email...that’s it your looking to hide them.
It sucks to have to search for information to make an informed decision about your marriage. I hope you find what your looking for...
[This message edited by Somber at 7:42 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)]
Me: BS, 41 / Him: SAWH, 43
2 children ages 7 and 9
“The truth is still blurry but the lies are getting clearer”
Lifeexploded (original poster member #51196) posted at 2:18 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2020
I'm honestly not sure if it's worth my time. I know he was trying to get a local woman to text him on his work cell but I don't know if she ever did. I have noticed that he keeps that phone turned off unless he is on call, so it's suspicious. But really, I'm mentally checked out of this marriage so does it matter? I don't know. Would it be great to throw it in his face later? Maybe. 
Married for 19.5 years to a sex addict. Filed for divorce 4/15/2020. Freedom July 22, 2020!
Somber ( member #66544) posted at 8:51 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2020
I’m not sure either. It did help me to shine light into the SA behaviours. It helped me to find evidence as I certainly couldn’t trust his word. I didn’t have specific names but would throw it out there that I saw multiple messages. He still denied it. Seeing the messages made me feel less trustworthy of him and more confidence in my suspicions which was powerful that way.
I never told him how I saw these messages either. A few times he questioned if I hired a PI...which I certainly never did, wouldn’t know how or have the money for that. If I need a PI then clearly the marriage is over. If we need to search for the truths then clearly the marriage is in serious trouble. I thought I was checked out too, but they make us feel crazy...that gaslighting crap! So I needed to find out for my own sanity...
The thing is there is a chance you will find nothing and that is not definitive that there was nothing...
Me: BS, 41 / Him: SAWH, 43
2 children ages 7 and 9
“The truth is still blurry but the lies are getting clearer”
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 7:32 PM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2020
This is how I got proof that STBX's A #2 was actually a PA.
Everytime you back up an iPhone to a computer it creates a back-up file. In the back up files is code and in the code are messages.
fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Separated 9/2019; Divorced 8/2024
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