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 Whyisthisit (original poster new member #72246) posted at 4:22 PM on Friday, February 14th, 2020

My mom still contacts my ex sometimes.

I guess someone had told her and one of my aunts about the cheating. My Aunts not too pleased but my overly forgiving mom and her friend mention her sometimes.

I didnt know till a while later that they started contacting each other again. My mom thinks everyone is redeemable and she and my ex have similar personality habits.

I told her it's annoying that she loaned her money not too long ago and some other stuff. My mom and I have always had a good relationship but it sucks that she likes both of us the same.

wonder if they were ok with what she did ?

[This message edited by Whyisthisit at 11:06 AM, February 14th (Friday)]

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TX1995 ( member #58175) posted at 4:44 PM on Friday, February 14th, 2020

Forgive me, but I'm kind of confused about what you are asking...

Your mom asks about your exW? As in "how are they?" To you? Or talk to your exW?

I stand by the fact that NO ONE really understands the depth of being betrayed unless they too have been betrayed. I doubt they are "ok" with what she did, but they don't have the same pain associated with it and if they were close to your ex, or y'all were married a long time, I'm sure they have general thoughts about her that aren't marked with the same distaste.

I'm the BS. WH had an EA/PA with a cOW. DDay was 4/17. Working on R. Married 15 years and together 20 at DDay.
DDay #2 and #3 6/19. Grew a conscience and admitted a full blown physical affair.
Current and forever status is reconciling. I don't

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 Whyisthisit (original poster new member #72246) posted at 5:04 PM on Friday, February 14th, 2020

She asked about her in the beginning but started contacting her recently.

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PSTI ( member #53103) posted at 7:33 PM on Friday, February 14th, 2020

Ask your mom?

That sounds really weird to me. My mom used to love my exH, but she loathes him now for what he did to us. She can't even say his name anymore without venting bile. No way would she ever want to invest time and energy into someone who hurt me and Kiddo.

Me: BW, my xH left me & DS after a 14 year marriage for the AP in 2014.

Happily remarried and in an open/polyamorous relationship. DH (married 5 years) & DBF (dating 4 years). Cohabitating happily all together!! <3

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StillLivin ( member #40229) posted at 8:15 PM on Friday, February 14th, 2020

I don't care how close I am to someone, and this includes family, if they want to remain close to my ex then they dont want me in their life. I would definitely have cut my mother off immediately if she had betrayed me this way. After all the shit he did to destroy me, anyone wanting to remain his friend would have been a dealbreaker for me.

"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014

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