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heartbrokeninNC (original poster member #72472) posted at 12:57 AM on Saturday, July 25th, 2020
*NEWS FLASH**NEWS FLASH**NEWS FLASH*
I never thought this day would come. WW informed me tonight that she has dropped her 30 day notice and her last day of work is 8/21. She resigned her position here without a job in hand in GA. In her words, she is moving to GA on 8/22! Good Riddance 
M-20 T-21DDay: 12/24/2019Separated: 8/22/2020D: 10/11/2021
Me: 52
"Always fear regret more than failure." - Author Unknown
It's time for another name!
Bor9455 ( member #72628) posted at 1:05 AM on Saturday, July 25th, 2020
BS only
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Myself - BH & WH - Born 1985 Her - BW & WW - Born 1986
D-Day for WW's EA - October 2017D-Day no it turned PA - February 01, 2020
steadychevy ( member #42608) posted at 1:52 AM on Saturday, July 25th, 2020
Do you feel considerable lighter, heartbroken?
BH(me)72(now); XWW 64; M 42 yrsDDay1-01/09/13;DDay2-26/10/13;DDay3-19/12/13;DDay4-21/01/14LTA-09/02-06/06? OM - COW 4 years; "dates" w/3 lovers post engagement;ONS w/stranger post commitment, lies, lies, liesSeparated 23/09/2017; D 16/03/2020
Buffer ( member #71664) posted at 1:59 AM on Saturday, July 25th, 2020
Thank Christ for that! Don’t let the door hit you’re ass on the way out. Might need a new door.
Buffer 
Newlifeisgreat ( member #71308) posted at 2:00 AM on Saturday, July 25th, 2020
Congratulations!!!
Now let’s hope she sticks to it!!!! Can she use any unused vacation day to be out sooner?
Continue to keep as much distance from her as possible!!
[This message edited by Newlifeisgreat at 8:02 PM, July 24th (Friday)]
Betrayed Spouse. She cheated and I filed immediately upon discovering. She never even suspected that I knew until the moment she was served with reason being Adultery. Divorced: Sept, 2018. VERY happy with new life, 0 regrets
heartbrokeninNC (original poster member #72472) posted at 2:34 AM on Saturday, July 25th, 2020
Do you feel considerable lighter, heartbroken?
steadychevy, I really feel a lot better now that I know. Since there is a time-frame it has become more tangible.
Now let’s hope she sticks to it!!!!
I've got my fingers, toes and everything else that I can cross, crossed. Brought up that the separation agreement needs to be done (signed) when she leaves but WW did not say anything which concerns me.
Can she use any unused vacation day to be out sooner?
She used those when trysting with POSOM.
Continue to keep as much distance from her as possible!!
That much I am doing. She is still trying to blame shift the whole A but grey rocking here as much as possible. Did not raise my voice tonight which I'm proud of. Not really getting that mad about it anymore because it's really pitiful and pathetic what she is doing. All the mental gymnastics and rationalization exercises are laughable.
M-20 T-21DDay: 12/24/2019Separated: 8/22/2020D: 10/11/2021
Me: 52
"Always fear regret more than failure." - Author Unknown
It's time for another name!
Newlifeisgreat ( member #71308) posted at 4:20 AM on Saturday, July 25th, 2020
Can you talk to your lawyer about her not signing the separation agreement?
Don’t want her to leave the state and therefore possibly avoid paying child support!!!
Congratulations once again
Betrayed Spouse. She cheated and I filed immediately upon discovering. She never even suspected that I knew until the moment she was served with reason being Adultery. Divorced: Sept, 2018. VERY happy with new life, 0 regrets
heartbrokeninNC (original poster member #72472) posted at 1:11 PM on Saturday, July 25th, 2020
Can you talk to your lawyer about her not signing the separation agreement?
I'm going to bring this up to the attorney to see what our course of action is if she does not sign it. I'm willing to change some language in there in regards to DD16 to get this done.
Don’t want her to leave the state and therefore possibly avoid paying child support!!!
Hopefully, it will not come to this but I'm prepared to fight. WW has a history of defaulting on things.
M-20 T-21DDay: 12/24/2019Separated: 8/22/2020D: 10/11/2021
Me: 52
"Always fear regret more than failure." - Author Unknown
It's time for another name!
Buffer ( member #71664) posted at 2:08 AM on Sunday, July 26th, 2020
Keep on her, counting the days. Must feel like each day is dragging out the eventuality.
Buffer
heartbrokeninNC (original poster member #72472) posted at 2:50 AM on Sunday, July 26th, 2020
Keep on her, counting the days. Must feel like each day is dragging out the eventuality.
Will definitely keep on her. I'm ready to be happy again.
M-20 T-21DDay: 12/24/2019Separated: 8/22/2020D: 10/11/2021
Me: 52
"Always fear regret more than failure." - Author Unknown
It's time for another name!
Newlifeisgreat ( member #71308) posted at 3:02 AM on Sunday, July 26th, 2020
You must be jumping out of your skin more than kids on December 1st waiting on Christmas!
Betrayed Spouse. She cheated and I filed immediately upon discovering. She never even suspected that I knew until the moment she was served with reason being Adultery. Divorced: Sept, 2018. VERY happy with new life, 0 regrets
Newlifeisgreat ( member #71308) posted at 3:03 AM on Sunday, July 26th, 2020
Betrayed Spouse. She cheated and I filed immediately upon discovering. She never even suspected that I knew until the moment she was served with reason being Adultery. Divorced: Sept, 2018. VERY happy with new life, 0 regrets
thatbpguy ( member #58540) posted at 3:10 AM on Sunday, July 26th, 2020
Just a thought, but were it me I would move anything you wish to keep that might be of some value. When she goes, who knows the last few things she might take.
Also, once she leaves, if she continues to delay the divorce, I would think you can use abandonment as a proper reasoning and proceed without her consent.
ME: BH Her: WW DDay 1, R; DDay 2, R; DDay 3, I left; Divorced Remarried to a wonderful woman
"There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind." C.S. Lewis
As a dog returns to his vomit, so a fool repeats his folly...
NoOptTo ( member #62958) posted at 9:56 AM on Sunday, July 26th, 2020
Inform your landlord that you want your locks changed the day she moves out
Buffer ( member #71664) posted at 10:04 AM on Sunday, July 26th, 2020
Newlifeisgreat ( member #71308) posted at 3:16 PM on Sunday, July 26th, 2020
Betrayed Spouse. She cheated and I filed immediately upon discovering. She never even suspected that I knew until the moment she was served with reason being Adultery. Divorced: Sept, 2018. VERY happy with new life, 0 regrets
Bigger ( Attaché #8354) posted at 4:17 PM on Sunday, July 26th, 2020
All you have is when she leaves her present job.
It’s a victory, but IMHO more like a won skirmish rather than a won war.
She could still be there in 27 days.
Keep up the pressure on when she is LEAVING.
"If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone." Epictetus
heartbrokeninNC (original poster member #72472) posted at 5:08 PM on Sunday, July 26th, 2020
You must be jumping out of your skin more than kids on December 1st waiting on Christmas!
Newlifeisgreat, definitely feels that way and can't wait to go total NC. I'm tired of the hurt and pain.
Inform your landlord that you want your locks changed the day she moves out
NoOptTo, will be doing that the day after she moves out. Attorney has advised me to do the same.
Keep up the pressure on when she is LEAVING.
Bigger, I'm keeping pressure on her pretty good and hoping that she is true to her word (I'm skeptical too). She is currently going through her dresser drawers and getting things ready to go. That can mean a lot of things but keeping it in perspective.
M-20 T-21DDay: 12/24/2019Separated: 8/22/2020D: 10/11/2021
Me: 52
"Always fear regret more than failure." - Author Unknown
It's time for another name!
heartbrokeninNC (original poster member #72472) posted at 4:40 PM on Tuesday, July 28th, 2020
WW is still moving stuff out of the house that is hers. She informed me that she is heading out of town this weekend to go see POSOM in order to transfer more of her things to him to take to GA.
Slowly but surely the cancer is being excised and cutout.
M-20 T-21DDay: 12/24/2019Separated: 8/22/2020D: 10/11/2021
Me: 52
"Always fear regret more than failure." - Author Unknown
It's time for another name!
thatbpguy ( member #58540) posted at 4:43 PM on Tuesday, July 28th, 2020
A new day and a breath of fresh air for you.
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ME: BH Her: WW DDay 1, R; DDay 2, R; DDay 3, I left; Divorced Remarried to a wonderful woman
"There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind." C.S. Lewis
As a dog returns to his vomit, so a fool repeats his folly...
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