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She is an insidious piece of shit you are right. This weekend she is with POSOM again while I'm spending time with friends out of town. I have DS18 staying at home just incase she brings POSOM to the house. WW doesn't care except for herself.

Want some good news?

Only 3 weeks left and you lose a 170 lb (plus) cancerous tumor!!!!

It's way more than 170 lbs. Almost 2.5 times that.

20 more days!!!!

Wow, she tops 400lbs?

Affirmative, not something I'm proud of. She was half that when we got married. I let my standards lapse and settled. Never again will I do that but not all bad came from the M. We have 3 beautiful kids which is the most important part.

400 pounds wow !!! I never thought I would say something like this on this site but I have a feeling that in the not too distant future when you start dating again and looking back, you might even consider sending a bottle of champagne to POSOM and even if it wasn't his intent, for "helping" you see who she truly was and getting rid of that huge tumor (as a matter of fact if she keeps on putting that much weight she might not even live that much longer which is bad for your children but nothing that you could do about it), make sure you hit the gym now and stay on it, before you know it you will be amazed at your dating options out there.

Buster123, I've lost about 40 pounds since DDay and down to a svelte 170. This whole A has been a blessing in disguise. Getting myself ready to go back on the market and should have no problems. Really working on myself and the confidence is there. The ladies at work have been helping me out a lot and have told me not to settle and to be true myself. Its amazing the support I've gotten since DDay from them and from SI.

You are giving up nothing of any value!!

I think that two days before the divorce is finalized, you should send POSOM a simple blank card. Inside of it write two words, “thank you”. Don’t even sign it.

His gain is his loss. Lol

Newlifeisgreat, you are exactly right. Looking back on everything and I'm grateful this happened even though it's going to cost me 7k, its money well spent As for the thank you card I will be sending him one for sure.

As the old saying goes, there is a good reason divorces cost so much..... they worth it!

400lb, well the bearded troll may have a hard time carrying that over the threshold! Sucks to be him.

One day at a time

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Look at it this way, you’re spending a measly 17 bucks a pound to get rid of her. A bargain!

Hey guys. Not cool. Grow up.

^^^ THIS ^^^

There is no room for degrading people no matter whom in regards to weight or for fat shaming. It serves absolutely no purpose, we are here to help people get thru one of the most difficult period of their lives, lets keep doing what we do best. BS doesn't need additional fuel on his fire.

Thank you Ginny and notanotherchance for re-centering this thread. I might have inadvertently started it and did not intend to. My apologies.

So trying to move back to supporting....

Congrats on being under the three week mark!

No need to apologize. This is your thread. This is your life.

Sometimes others forget a bit of what is important when helping others in your situation.

You’re doing great, by the way! Keep up the great work of standing up for yourself and getting infidelity out of your life.

Thank You so much Ginny, your insight is very much appreciated. It's hard not to get caught up in the heat of the moment at times but it is understandable. I do not fault anyone.

On another note, had a very good weekend out of town with friends that I haven't seen for years. Was great reminiscing about our twenties and catching up on decades. Other than having to tell my story for about 5 minutes, I did not think about WW at all this weekend. I'm in a good place right now but have to keep pushing along and see to it that WW lives up to her end. Feeling calm now and really do not care about WW's A anymore, it's odd. Thought this would come much later than seven months post DDay.

You're ridding yourself of 400 pounds of dead weight. God bless ya.

That is true but it is also secondary to the infidelity. Staying laser focused on getting out of it in order to go full NC.

19 days. There is light at the end of the tunnel.