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Brokenheart29 (original poster member #51827) posted at 6:26 PM on Sunday, June 21st, 2020
Ow and xwh bought a house together. My ds hasn’t been since lockdown. This was his first weekend there. Ow has taken my sons iPad and took loads of photos of them and their house knowing full well I will see. Twisting the knife in again.
What do I do? Do I delete them and look bothered. Or do I leave them on there. I’m now torn. I don’t want to send the iPad anymore as it’s just not what I need to see. But then my son will be missing out. I feel like she will get so much satisfaction whatever I do. What a bitch. No wonder my dd is refusing to go. She hates her.
Me 33, xwh POS had a pa while I was pregnant. My kids, DD 10 DS 4.They will see me through this trauma.
Dday January 2016
Divorced finally January 2017
Thanksgiving2016 ( member #63462) posted at 7:48 PM on Sunday, June 21st, 2020
Make your ex get him an iPad for his house.
Brokenheart29 (original poster member #51827) posted at 7:59 PM on Sunday, June 21st, 2020
I was thinking this but this one my son has got in xwh’s old one. So I’m thinking I don’t really have a leg to stand on if I tell him to get his own as he gave my son this one. I don’t want to buy my son a new one as he’s only 4 and it’s very excessive.
Me 33, xwh POS had a pa while I was pregnant. My kids, DD 10 DS 4.They will see me through this trauma.
Dday January 2016
Divorced finally January 2017
Trust55 ( member #60672) posted at 8:10 PM on Sunday, June 21st, 2020
I would put the photos in a folder on his iPad and put a passcode only you can open. You could put a cheerful title on the photo album. Taking advantage of a 4 year old is outrageous. She is a loser. I am sorry you have to deal with this. Sending you hugs!
Me - BS - D Day 03.19.2017 ( 2 days before our 31 wedding anniversary)False R Divorce in progress FILED JUNE 2017,
TRIAL JUNE 2022! It’s pretty sad married to a LIAR and CHEATER.
ChamomileTea ( Moderator #53574) posted at 9:21 PM on Sunday, June 21st, 2020
I would delete the photos and not send the ipad anymore. You can pack other things to keep your child entertained, like handheld video games and learning toys.
BW: 2004(online EAs), 2014 (multiple PAs); Married 40 years; in R with fWH for 10
Brokenheart29 (original poster member #51827) posted at 10:24 PM on Sunday, June 21st, 2020
Trust55 I didn’t even know you could do that. That’s a good idea. I would just hate to entertain her or make her think she has won in any way. Which is ridiculous I know but that cretin has done enough damage I don’t want her to think she’s still inflicting pain.
Thank you all for your replies. Honestly she needs to get a life. It’s screams insecurity. And also like it’s been mentioned taking advantage of a 4 year old. 
Me 33, xwh POS had a pa while I was pregnant. My kids, DD 10 DS 4.They will see me through this trauma.
Dday January 2016
Divorced finally January 2017
JadedByItAll ( member #60042) posted at 10:52 PM on Sunday, June 21st, 2020
What I would do is delete the photos and replace them with pictures of memes dealing with homewreckers, sluts, whores, and the like. That should send a clear message. But, then again, I am a petty, vindictive jerk, so take my advice with a grain of salt.
Cooley2here ( member #62939) posted at 11:35 PM on Sunday, June 21st, 2020
Delete and then take pictures of you and your kids. If you like them send them to your own device because she will delete them. You might have to do this after every visit but the upside to that is how many pictures you will have of your kids. It’s a Win/win for you.
Also, you can edit her and your ex out of any good ones of him and then delete.
Please keep in mind that she has your icky ex. They deserve each other.
[This message edited by Cooley2here at 5:36 PM, June 21st (Sunday)]
When things go wrong, don’t go with them. Elvis
messyleslie ( member #58177) posted at 1:19 AM on Monday, June 22nd, 2020
I think I would just leave them. I wouldn’t even give her the satisfaction of knowing I saw them. I think the best response to passive aggressive nonsense is to just act like you assume the person has the best intentions - this willl annoy them because they will feel like you cannot be rattled.
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 8:45 PM on Monday, June 22nd, 2020
I would delete the photos and not send the ipad anymore.
This is what I would do ^
fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Separated 9/2019; Divorced 8/2024
Brokenheart29 (original poster member #51827) posted at 10:35 PM on Monday, June 22nd, 2020
Thanks for all the suggestions guys. Really means a lot.
Today I’ve gave myself a shake and just realised how pathetic she is. She’s moved in with her “soul mate” she got what she wanted. She helped wreck a family. Why is she trying to still bait the ex wife 4 years later. Honestly her life must be so dull. I can laugh today about it.
But I am going to stop sending the iPad. Even though it’s xwh’a old one I actually bought him it as a present so technically it’s mine anyway. They can get their own for him if they wish. Then she can take photos all she wants.
Me 33, xwh POS had a pa while I was pregnant. My kids, DD 10 DS 4.They will see me through this trauma.
Dday January 2016
Divorced finally January 2017
Notmine ( member #57221) posted at 12:30 PM on Tuesday, June 23rd, 2020
Do not send it any more. Take the toy away from her. They can get him one that stays at their house if they want to.
When you're going through hell, for God's sake, DON'T STOP!
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