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Surpisedtobehere (original poster new member #75277) posted at 2:34 AM on Tuesday, September 8th, 2020
Today is a bittersweet day. A bit of loneliness crept in once the kids went to bed but, it's bound to happen after a 10-year relationship. What makes this day amazing is that 1 month is a mini-milestone to be away from the lies, deception, torture, and misery! Each day has been better with the thoughts of the situation and I've noticed that they happen a little further apart than they were before so that's super encouraging!
I still have a long road of healing and that's okay. The time with my kids has been incredible (we did a 6k hike today and enjoyed the sun and water at the beach prior) and I'm focused on them and myself. Going to start eating better and working out so that's exciting!
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 6:18 AM on Tuesday, September 8th, 2020
Nice update! It takes a little time for your body and mind to realize the anxiety is gone, the fear is gone, this quiet is what safe feels like. Sure, you’ll have lonely times. But the peace will be worth it, and the loneliness eases, too.
Glad you enjoyed the weekend!
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
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Surpisedtobehere (original poster new member #75277) posted at 10:33 AM on Tuesday, September 8th, 2020
Nice update! It takes a little time for your body and mind to realize the anxiety is gone, the fear is gone, this quiet is what safe feels like. Sure, you’ll have lonely times. But the peace will be worth it, and the loneliness eases, too.
Glad you enjoyed the weekend!
Thank you for all this! I hope you had a good weekend as well!!
Tinnat ( member #71605) posted at 11:27 AM on Tuesday, September 8th, 2020
It takes a little time for your body and mind to realize the anxiety is gone, the fear is gone, this quiet is what safe feels like.
Oh how I love these words. "Safe", "fear gone", "anxiety gone". So true, and yes, it takes some getting used to!
Surpisedtobehere (original poster new member #75277) posted at 12:11 AM on Wednesday, September 9th, 2020
Oh how I love these words. "Safe", "fear gone", "anxiety gone". So true, and yes, it takes some getting used to!
I agree. Great ways to describe it. I'm sure it does and my goal is to try to make each day better than the last!
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 3:00 AM on Wednesday, September 9th, 2020
Enjoy the peace and lack of drama 👍🏻
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
Surpisedtobehere (original poster new member #75277) posted at 3:17 PM on Wednesday, September 9th, 2020
Enjoy the peace and lack of drama 👍🏻
Thank you, I will!!
Westway ( member #71747) posted at 10:44 PM on Wednesday, September 9th, 2020
Good to hear. Make sure you focus on your needs also. You are no good to your kids if you are not 100% in mind and body.
Me: 52;
XWW: 50 y.o. serial cheater
Married 22 years, Together 24
2 Daughters: aged 16 and 20
DDay: 9/20/19
Divorced 12/03/20.
Surpisedtobehere (original poster new member #75277) posted at 4:13 AM on Thursday, September 10th, 2020
Good to hear. Make sure you focus on your needs also. You are no good to your kids if you are not 100% in mind and body.
Great advice! I’ve started working out and running/walking daily. I’ve also been using my down time to get back to my passion of fishing which was lacking for a while! You’re 100% right and I’m pushing to keep focused on my needs and spending time with the kids.
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