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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:29 PM on Tuesday, October 20th, 2020
Gently, Daniel, she may want to string you along, but she can't keep you hooked unless you let her.
You can unhook yourself, and I urge you to do so. You have the necessary strength. You have the power.
I'm with Bigger - I think any M can R, if both partners do the necessary work. I'll also say: no M can R unless both partners do the necessary work.
Your W isn't on board. No matter how much you may want to stay M to her, the best you can do now is rug-sweep, and that's a lousy long-term strategy.
If you can't detach now, look at the Simplified 180: https://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=598080.
And
D - don’t
E - even
T - think
A - about
C - changing
H – her.
[This message edited by sisoon at 10:31 AM, October 20th (Tuesday)]
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
Stevesn ( member #58312) posted at 11:16 AM on Wednesday, October 21st, 2020
Recommend you tell the wife of OP2 how your wife coached him so she doesn’t fall for his new lies.
I wish you strength going forward and hope you follow they with the D as your partner is not safe for you at all.
fBBF. Just before proposing, broke it off after her 2nd confirmed PA in 2 yrs. 9 mo later I met the wonderful woman I have spent the next 30 years with.
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