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Agreed, sadly.

From what I've seen in person of these kinds of open marriages, the reluctant partner is slowly seduced into the lifestyle.

I knew one guy who only got to have sex with "their girlfriend" on his birthday with his wife permission.

It's similar to people I've seen who have married hoarders who sometimes waste decades of their lives as the heaps keep growing.

I have a idea,maybe you can charge her boyfriends for using your wife. Not like a whore, but charging for a time spent from marriage. So,even if you are in a bad,sexless marriage with cheating wife,you will have money to buy yourself a nice things,maybe go on vacation,buy a sex doll,that king of things. It is better than shering your wife for free.

What is the point of being married?

A Non-monogamous relationship.

Open marriage, swinging. Needs the following things.

1. TRUST.

2. COMMUNICATION.

3. Both spouses 100% onboard

4. Wife places you before other person emotionally/sexually.

5. 100 percent transparency.

6. How mich time is she spending with the other man? The couple I know have an Open marriage and they go in dates/fuck other people every saturday and sunday. They also have kids so when the kids have events they put the open marriage on hold.

7.Protection. How often will you and your wife get std checks. Will you wear condoms as well as other man?

8.Can you pick up other women easily have roughly same FWB numbers as her.

1.For number 1 your wife had 3 affairs!!! Did she tell you or did you find out? If she did not tell you then the trust is not there.

2. She did not COMMUNICATE with you she was having 3 AFFAIRS!!!

3. I can tell YOU are not 100% onboard! She already has 1 foot out the door!

4. I don't know yet from your posts but has your wife been less intimate with you? Is she spending the majority of her time texting/sexting other man? If the answer is yes this is not going to work!

5. Does your wife have an open phone policy with you. Let you know when she is going out with other man?

6.How often does she want to spend with the other man?

7. Do you have children will OM wear a condom is she on BC?

In all honesty this has a high chance of turning in a poly marriage

[This message edited by BigNoob at 12:00 PM, November 13th (Friday)]

ONLY posting this now because this thread is at the top of page 1 on the JFO forum.

Like real estate the most important factor for posts on SI is location, location, location.

The threads at the top of Page 1 tend to get the most attention and the love and support offered tends to lower as the threads drop down the page. Sometimes because the issue has been resolved or dealt with, sometimes because the original poster no longer contributes.

Once an issue drops to Page 2 it’s well on it’s way to the black hole of obscurity.

MAYBE we shouldn’t feed this post and let it slip into obscurity. That way we free up real-estate for people seeking help in areas we definitely can help.

On this particular thread the original poster isn’t getting what he asked for. Probably because nobody here on SI has any meaningful or successful stories about how they changed infidelity into a successful and happy open marriage. The original poster only has 4 posts, the last one 11 days ago. He has over 10 pages of responses, none that he has positively replied to. Let’s focus on those that need the help we can give. Let’s allow this thread to slip down the page and onwards.

If the OP has something new to contribute then we could respond.