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My WH had two AP’s that I know of. One has met bad circumstances.

The second was his ex wife. Like my WH, she has passed away. Years after their affair ended, she messaged my WH, which didn’t make sense at the time (as I didn’t know of the affair), but it was a star crossed lovers message. My WH messaged her back with contempt but offered to meet her. I don’t believe they met. A few months later, she committed suicide. I feel nothing for her....but her family is a different story. I will always feel horrible and terrible that my WH played a part in their lives. He knew she had kids and a husband but didn’t care. My WH told me that he didn’t care about me or my kids, so how or why would he care about the OBS and his kids.

Her OBS is likely very glad my WH is dead and I wouldn’t blame him one bit. Some of my IRL friends feel that my WH got the karma bus rolled over him. I can’t...because of my kids. They are hurting and will be for years to come...he is still mostly on a pedestal for them...and I get that, they lost their dad. For me, there is no grieving. I grieved the first 2 weeks after he passed, then the hurt and anger from his betrayal kicked back in. Now 6 months later, I am healing slowly.

His first AP was married, no kids...I do wish ill of her....I truly hope she gets cheated on. But likely she is so shallow it won’t impact her. She will just move on to the next unsuspecting partner. All in all, I know that she is likely living a life that is unfulfilled...that’s enough for me.

COVID killed AP's business. I couldn't care less. Dude got what he deserved. No more, no less. A man with integrity probably could have saved it as many (not all) similar businesses flourished. Not his. You reap what you sew.

I hate myself for wanting karma to bite the women in the ass.

One has a husband who gives her anything she wants - poor fool. She is using him for what his money provides. Wild age difference. He probably thinks he is so lucky. I hope I get to hear about karma kicking her ass at some point.

I was lucky enough to see that the other loser woman, who claimed to be Christian and is a SAHM who seemed to have had all the time in the world to chat it up and meet up with my husband for "coffee". She got arrested for DUI. I was quite giddy...didn't feel bad for feeling that at all. Just glad she was caught before she hurt someone.

When I heard what friends of mine did to ex’s AP (nothing physical, just set his career back several years and made him professionally persona non grata in the area), I simply smiled and thought of how good my friends are!

Haven’t heard anything about the AP in probably more than a year, which I’m very happy about. Do run into his ex wife from time to time, but we don’t talk about the ex's, we talk about the present and future.

Newlifeisgrea, what did your friends do? Had to ask.

My XWW's AP was a reserve officer with a high level security clearance. When I found out about their 'doings' I reported him to his commander. UCMJ! He got kicked out and lost his high valued clearance and the mid six figure civilian job that went with it.

When he could no longer afford the huge house in the gated community, the private schools, spas and clubs, his wife took a powder. He'd been cheating with my XWW on and off for years, but other women as well. There are some women who will share an ALPHA. His wife was that type, but when he hit the skids, she bolted. On her way out she acccused him of domestic violence and he got arrested. I'm not sure he really did it or if that was a tactic from his wife, but hooray for Hollywood!

I heard she got with one or more of his military friends, but no proof. She was a pretty woman, at the time so it would have been easy for her. And she took him to the cleaners in their divorce.

He's an engineer, but what made him special was that clearance. It was above top secret and he lost it over a woman he called a 'piece of ass', XWW.

[This message edited by hatefulnow at 2:33 AM, January 15th (Friday)]

Maybe it isn’t nice to wish bad things on people. But did that person give a damn when they were helping break up your marriage and ruining your life? That wasn’t very nice of them either.

Should you wish bad on people? Probably not. Are you entitled to those feelings after what you’ve been put through? Absolutely.

The AP knew me, and my kids. She had absolutely zero problem actively destroying my life. I absolutely wish every bad thing in the world for her. I hope she spends her life miserable.

I hope she spends days in her own vomit on the floor of her bathroom.

I hope she hurts so bad suicide looks like the only way out.

I want her to lay awake at night because another nightmare or panic attack woke her up and she is too afraid to go back to sleep.

She had no problem doing this to me. I would NEVER do anything like this to another human. But there are, very obviously, people that do. I just hope she finds one.